Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
How do you handle failed classes (ADHD)? Do you take away anything ?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 634095" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>My hard fast rule - if the incident was a true manifestation of his issue(s) (adhd, bipolar, learning disability, etc.), I never took away anything. His consequence for not doing his work in class was finishing it at home which translated into less play time (this worked great when he was little). He knew ahead of time that was the price to pay.</p><p></p><p>You really have to ask yourself "Am I asking for something that he is not able to give?" If you even suspect that answer is "yes", then consequences only serve to frustrate both of you and make him less willing to comply in the future (in other words, counterproductive). There are many accommodations that can be made on school work with a good IEP.</p><p></p><p>At some point as our difficult children age, they, and only they, need to be held responsible for their actions or lack of actions. I apologize, but I cannot remember how old you son is. You might want to do a signature profile so we can remember your situation as we respond to your posts. </p><p></p><p>We walk a fine line between what behaviors are their "disabilities" (poor executive functioning/learning disability/anxiety/social que problems and what issues are just plain obstinance/willful disobedience, etc.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 634095, member: 805"] My hard fast rule - if the incident was a true manifestation of his issue(s) (adhd, bipolar, learning disability, etc.), I never took away anything. His consequence for not doing his work in class was finishing it at home which translated into less play time (this worked great when he was little). He knew ahead of time that was the price to pay. You really have to ask yourself "Am I asking for something that he is not able to give?" If you even suspect that answer is "yes", then consequences only serve to frustrate both of you and make him less willing to comply in the future (in other words, counterproductive). There are many accommodations that can be made on school work with a good IEP. At some point as our difficult children age, they, and only they, need to be held responsible for their actions or lack of actions. I apologize, but I cannot remember how old you son is. You might want to do a signature profile so we can remember your situation as we respond to your posts. We walk a fine line between what behaviors are their "disabilities" (poor executive functioning/learning disability/anxiety/social que problems and what issues are just plain obstinance/willful disobedience, etc. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
How do you handle failed classes (ADHD)? Do you take away anything ?
Top