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How do you help a homeless and suicidal son?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 738996" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Thank you so much Kalahou. I will check into sober living houses - I’m not sure what is available around here but it’s a great thought! If they are available but he doens’t want to do it because of rules and curfews, at least I know he’s making that decision and can feel less guilty about letting him live with the consequences and not offering him a place here. I could swing a couple months rent somewhere to get him started, though I can’t do that indefinitely. </p><p></p><p>It’s just so hard contemplating allowing him to be truly homeless. Not couch surfing homeless, or even living out of a car homeless, but sleeping in doorways or under bridges homeless. In the past when I’ve passed homeless people on the streets I’ve always wondered what’s wrong with their families that they don’t have the compassion to help. But now here I am, watching my son fall down that hole. I feel selfish for prioritizing my own peace over his safety and well-being. I have the space - I’d have to move our kitty in hospice, but it sounds silly to say ‘sorry you can’t sleep in our perfectly comfortable guest room because it’s the cat’s room now.” After he calls in tears and says he has no place to go. I fantasize that a couple months in the wholesome country air with the animals and garden chores could help him find himself and give him time to get sober. But I know the reality is more likely that he’ll be drinking and smoking weed behind my back, smoking in the house and then denying he did it while the smell drives us crazy, staying up at all hours of the night watching tv or playing games on his phone while we’re trying to sleep, and resenting us for any rules we try to impose. And without good employment options, at some point we’d just have to bite the bullet and kick him back out, whether he’s made progress towards being sober or not. I know all this, but I still feel selfish and guilty.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 738996, member: 23349"] Thank you so much Kalahou. I will check into sober living houses - I’m not sure what is available around here but it’s a great thought! If they are available but he doens’t want to do it because of rules and curfews, at least I know he’s making that decision and can feel less guilty about letting him live with the consequences and not offering him a place here. I could swing a couple months rent somewhere to get him started, though I can’t do that indefinitely. It’s just so hard contemplating allowing him to be truly homeless. Not couch surfing homeless, or even living out of a car homeless, but sleeping in doorways or under bridges homeless. In the past when I’ve passed homeless people on the streets I’ve always wondered what’s wrong with their families that they don’t have the compassion to help. But now here I am, watching my son fall down that hole. I feel selfish for prioritizing my own peace over his safety and well-being. I have the space - I’d have to move our kitty in hospice, but it sounds silly to say ‘sorry you can’t sleep in our perfectly comfortable guest room because it’s the cat’s room now.” After he calls in tears and says he has no place to go. I fantasize that a couple months in the wholesome country air with the animals and garden chores could help him find himself and give him time to get sober. But I know the reality is more likely that he’ll be drinking and smoking weed behind my back, smoking in the house and then denying he did it while the smell drives us crazy, staying up at all hours of the night watching tv or playing games on his phone while we’re trying to sleep, and resenting us for any rules we try to impose. And without good employment options, at some point we’d just have to bite the bullet and kick him back out, whether he’s made progress towards being sober or not. I know all this, but I still feel selfish and guilty. [/QUOTE]
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