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How do you help a homeless and suicidal son?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 738998" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Bluebell, ha! We love guests that don't bring drama with them. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> It really IS a lovely refuge, and we've worked hard to make it that way. </p><p></p><p>We're more in parkland area than farm area, and I'm not sure he's up for farmwork anyway. (And if he did get a job around here, it would either require me driving him back and forth or trusting him with my car - neither option is very appealing at this point.) And I would hate to invite any of my neighbors into this potential drama. We're still pretty new here, and a same-sex couple in an area where we're pretty...unusual. We've made some good connection with neighbors, had some hostile reactions from others. I think we've gained a lot of respect by the work we've put into fixing up the house and putting in a kick-ass garden. But those relationships still feel pretty new and fragile. I wouldn't want to ask for any favors, especially if it's likely things would go south. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>But mostly I just feel sick at the thought of having any drama at all in our little refuge here. It's the first time in my life I've ever had a place that is peaceful and free from violence, shouting and general dysfunction. Having him here feels like inviting that back in, and potentially inviting more contact with his dad, which I don't want at all. (My partner doesn't even want my ex knowing exactly where we live, due to what she knows about our past together--when my younger son and his family come to stay with us a couple times a year, if they want to see his dad we drive them into the city to a neutral meeting place.) I'm just so torn between wanting to help and wanting to preserve what I have here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 738998, member: 23349"] Bluebell, ha! We love guests that don't bring drama with them. :) It really IS a lovely refuge, and we've worked hard to make it that way. We're more in parkland area than farm area, and I'm not sure he's up for farmwork anyway. (And if he did get a job around here, it would either require me driving him back and forth or trusting him with my car - neither option is very appealing at this point.) And I would hate to invite any of my neighbors into this potential drama. We're still pretty new here, and a same-sex couple in an area where we're pretty...unusual. We've made some good connection with neighbors, had some hostile reactions from others. I think we've gained a lot of respect by the work we've put into fixing up the house and putting in a kick-ass garden. But those relationships still feel pretty new and fragile. I wouldn't want to ask for any favors, especially if it's likely things would go south. :( But mostly I just feel sick at the thought of having any drama at all in our little refuge here. It's the first time in my life I've ever had a place that is peaceful and free from violence, shouting and general dysfunction. Having him here feels like inviting that back in, and potentially inviting more contact with his dad, which I don't want at all. (My partner doesn't even want my ex knowing exactly where we live, due to what she knows about our past together--when my younger son and his family come to stay with us a couple times a year, if they want to see his dad we drive them into the city to a neutral meeting place.) I'm just so torn between wanting to help and wanting to preserve what I have here. [/QUOTE]
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