Assuming that my difficult child is an aspie, I'm re-reading the books on my shelf to figure out a game plan. Asperger's Syndrome and Difficult Moments (Myles and Southwick) has a section on Social Narratives, where you spell out social guidelines for kids so they learn the clues and guidelines for social behavior. At what point do these kids go from rote memorization to truly "getting it"? I know they can get it because I know adult aspies (or in the case of Jim Robison, Aspergians) who are compassionate and aware of others' thoughts and feelings. Jim had to "get it" on his own, (although he does say that a psychiatric buddy pointed it out to him, and knowing how obsessive-compulsive some aspies can be, I can only assume he bought a boatload of books on Asperger's and memorized them all ) Also, assuming that the new tests we have done confirm that my difficult child is an Aspie, I should tell him what we're testing for, right? He's going to be in denial and want to argue. Any ideas? P.S. How do you teach an aspie compassion?--can't fix my subject heading.