Okay, let me say sorry first because here I am asking a question, yet I have not been on for awhile. We have just spent the last two weeks landscaping our backyard (ourselves!) and then I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off the past few days. Hopefully, I will have some time to get on here in the next two days and then it is time for more running around! Today we have therapy and that is it, then I can relax a bit. Now, my question. How do those of you with children who have food issues handle it? I have found food in the girls room one time only before, but now I have cause to go looking to see if there is more in there. I had some oreo's under the bottom shelf about two weeks ago and I discovered there was 3/4 of the bag GONE! My son said he had only 3 or 4 of them. The other kids said they hadn't had any at all, and I know husband and I had not had any. Asked difficult child 1 how many she had had. Only 3-4 was her answer. Now, I really do believe that it was her eating them all. Yesterday, I went grocery shopping and started cleaning off shelves and rearranging and putting things under the bottom shelf and above the top shelf and they are my DO NOT TOUCH shelves. This is where I put stuff that I do not want opened or touched unless they ASK because there are certain things that I have bought for DS or daughter. DS has braces, so there are only certain things he can eat, and daughter works, so she needs stuff to be able to take to work (packaged). Not that anyone else cannot have them, they just need to ask. Under the bottom shelf are the boxes of things already on the shelf and they need to eat what is already opened before anything comes out from under the bottom shelf. Anyway. I started cleaning and I found thrown up in the corner of the top shelf, a hardened half eaten Little Debbie's snack! I also started looking at the stuff that was in the pantry and thinking, okay, there should be more of this or that and I KNOW that I had not heard anyone asking for these things, or I had not seen anyone with these things, so where did they go? I had almost an entire bag of suckers in there and there were all of a sudden only 4 left in the bag. NOBODY has been eating them, and they HAVE to ask for candy. difficult child 2 said she found one of those suckers in difficult child 1's bookbag the other day. So, yesterday, I threw the half eaten goodie on the bar and waited for the girls to get home. I called difficult child 1 into the kitchen and told her to look at it, and that it was awfully funny that I should find this in the pantry thrown up on the top shelf and there were only two people that I know that would throw it up there. One of those people couldn't get it up there and throws their stuff in the trash, so that leaves one person. I knew immediately from the look on her face that it was her and she knew she was had. I confronted her on the issue of sneaking food to which she admitted to that as well. I KNEW it!!! So, now I figure I have bigger issues to deal with than I originally thought. I did tell her that in this house she would NEVER have to worry about food. EVER. She would always have a good meal to eat and that I felt that I was very fair with them as far as meals and snacks went. They get very good meals. Every food group is on their plates.. habit from doing daycare, and also because I know you really need good nutrition anyway. They get one snack between meals, all which have to be a healthy snack and they are allowed only one "****" snack per day. They do get candy, but they are not allowed to just continue eating it until they are sick and not on a daily basis. It isn't like she has to worry and think that she doesn't know where her next meal is coming from. Our pantry is well stocked. I have two fridges with both freezers fully stocked, and another freezer that is so full of meat I can't cram much else in there! I do regular grocery shopping. I knew she had some food issues due to the fact that when they lived with their mother it was Ramen noodles, Ravioli, and Hamburger helper. I would imagine she got one small helping and that was it. I remember when I would take stuff to my Mom's and those kids would come running just to see what was being brought into the house! SAD! Every time I saw those kids before they were eating Ramen Noodles. Up until about 6 months ago, when I would tell the girls to get something for lunch on the weekend, difficult child 1 would ask me for RAMEN NOODLES!! That is a thorn in my side and would make me so freaking angry! Come on.. you have all this GOOD food and you are asking for that ****!!!! I used to buy it so that husband could take it to work if he wanted it. I told her the one day to never, ever again ask me for Ramen Noodles and I have since quit buying it. So, yesterday, I told her she is not allowed in the pantry at all unless she asks and I told hubby that if she asks him, he is to walk in there with her until she gets her snack and comes out. Pretty sad that we have to follow a 14 yr old around. Next thing you know, I will have to put locks on everything! ugh... So, how do you handle this kind of situation? We have therapy today and I have emailed our therapist with a heads up as to the situation so she can talk to her today because I believe the girls are doing individual therapy. Thanks.