I allowed difficult child 1 to spend the night at a friend's house last night with the very clear understanding that he was to be home by 11:00 this morning. Usually, this isn't an issue. He knows sleepovers are a privilege and does not like to ruin his chances of having that taken away. Well, I texted him at 11:03 asking him if he was on his way because he was already late. He replied that they were just eating cinnamon rolls the parents had just made. Ok, no problem, I'll let him finish eating. I call him at 11:30 asking him if he was on his way. He said yea. Ok, no problem. I get busy doing something and glance at the clock awhile later. Hmmmm, it's 11:55 and still no difficult child 1. I text him to GET HOME NOW. He walks in the door at 12:05 with all his stuff. I calmly tell him to put all his stuff away and give me his phone. He hands me his phone and asks if that means he's grounded from video games and computer too (see, I don't have to even tell him he's grounded, he knows). Yes, that means grounded from all that stuff too. He walks back into the other room. Ten minutes later, he comes into the kitchen and says (in that 'trying to sound confused but I'm not really confused' voice) "So, let me get this straight. You're grounding me for being a good friend? I was helping J pick up the basement." My reply: "No, you're grounded for not coming home when you were done eating like you said you were when I asked you. You were late AND you lied to me." He walked back into the other room without another word.