So, M and his girlfriend came last night for Tday. It didn't seem too weird. I wish I had gotten a bigger turkey. The girl seems nice but I don't know who long she has known him. They both seemed very reserved. She seemed to be very reserved to the point of suspicion, but maybe that's just my suspicion that M has "poor me'd" himself to everyone he knows and some he doesn't. L called on Tuesday and asked if she had Xmas morning at her house would we come? I said yes. She said "I don't know if my dad will come, so maybe we won't." What is that supposed to mean? She wanted to goad me into saying that I wouldn't go, so that she could make the Scrooge of Christmas again. I'm not the Scrooge, I'm just not going to pretend that dolling up the house and buying things she won't use makes me feel like I did the right thing. She's nearly 26, it's time for her to get her own traditions. Something else came to me today. She still wants a big load of Christmas gifts from me, and thinks that I won't make waves by not preparing to go to her house in front of a bunch of other people without an armload. I'm not anyone's Santa Claus anymore. If she does Christmas I'll get her a token gift. Her dad and grandparents give her too much already. She doesn't have to do anything for housing, food, car, (designer) clothing, and she's living rent free with her boyfriend... She's going to have to find something else to be joyous about this year! Personally, I'll figure out something really nummy to eat, and call that good.