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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 719301" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>That is an interesting question. I would say 16 but my daughter says she started seriously drinking and using at 18. So I guess we will go with 18 to 30. A marathon is a perfect way to describe it. Or maybe a roller coaster that seems like it will never end.</p><p></p><p>SWOT's list is excellent. When my daughter finally got sober, she hit every one of the items on the list. I remember other members on the board used to say that you would know when your child is actually sober because they are a different person. Now I see exactly what they meant.</p><p></p><p>What helped her become sober? I think it was a combination of things. Inpatient treatment was part of it. I think the intervention that we did and her stay in the first three-month inpatient program made her finally realize she had a problem. Subsequent stays in treatment helped her develop the skills she needed to become sober. But the biggest factor was that my husband and I went through two years of therapy to learn how to stop enabling her behavior and force her to figure out that living a life of drugs is harder than leading a sober life. We had to get to the point where we were willing to let her be homeless and accept the fact that she might die. We also let her know that we loved her but that she couldn't be part of our lives if she was using drugs. </p><p></p><p>I think she just got tired of living like that and wanted her family back. I truly didn't think I would ever see the day she got and stayed sober but it has been 18 months now so I am cautiously optimistic.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 719301, member: 1967"] That is an interesting question. I would say 16 but my daughter says she started seriously drinking and using at 18. So I guess we will go with 18 to 30. A marathon is a perfect way to describe it. Or maybe a roller coaster that seems like it will never end. SWOT's list is excellent. When my daughter finally got sober, she hit every one of the items on the list. I remember other members on the board used to say that you would know when your child is actually sober because they are a different person. Now I see exactly what they meant. What helped her become sober? I think it was a combination of things. Inpatient treatment was part of it. I think the intervention that we did and her stay in the first three-month inpatient program made her finally realize she had a problem. Subsequent stays in treatment helped her develop the skills she needed to become sober. But the biggest factor was that my husband and I went through two years of therapy to learn how to stop enabling her behavior and force her to figure out that living a life of drugs is harder than leading a sober life. We had to get to the point where we were willing to let her be homeless and accept the fact that she might die. We also let her know that we loved her but that she couldn't be part of our lives if she was using drugs. I think she just got tired of living like that and wanted her family back. I truly didn't think I would ever see the day she got and stayed sober but it has been 18 months now so I am cautiously optimistic. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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