I loved this. Today I had a therapy appointment with my new psychologist and she rocks. She brought up the idea that people rent space in our minds and the more we think about THEM and don't concentrate on our lives and the hear and now, that is how much space these people rent from us...in our heads and in our lives. So how much space is your Difficult Child taking up in your mind? How much of your life does he or she rent? I know that since I first came here fifteen years ago to now it has changed. I'd say my kids rented at least 80% of my life experience, if not more. I had very little life of my own. The renters were talking in my head and even while busy they had my attention. It's down now to about 20%. I'm not talking about how much we have pleasant memories. I'm talking about how much anger, resentment, worry, negative emotions are others renting in our heads? How much space is your head being rented out by those you love and worry about?