Jana has been seeing an older man---he is 29--she will be 20 in Nov. husband is 7 years older than I am---he was 32 when we married. He had never been married and had no children. I was 25 and divorced with one child. This guy is divorced, lives at home with his mother to save some money, and has a 2 year old and 4 year old. That is not the dream I had for her, but I also know that she will do what she wants to do. Parenting adults is harder than raising toddlers.