What an awful weekend. First of all the weather was pretty BLAH for a holiday weekend. I need to vent - husband and I just do not know what to do. Thur I am let out early fom work (yea). I head to pick up difficult child from summer program (husband was supposed too, but he got out early and ran an errand for my mother). difficult child sees me and smiles then proceeds to say "Why are you here so early?" I told him why - then he blows a gasket because it is I not his dad who picked him up. I tell him we are headed to the lake to see grandparents new boat and that husband is already there because he helped them. difficult child gives grief about going - I given him a choice to go home and do nothing until husband's softball game or goto the lake and check out boat. He goes to the lake. Doesn't listen!! "difficult child get off the boat, can't go in until its in the water", he climbs on, then on again and again like the English we speak was never his first language. Proceeds to drive us all nuts until he leaves with-husband for the game. Fri am- husband goes with a coworker of mine to fish at 3:30 a.m.. They go nice and early then husband is home by 9-9:30a.m. By 8 am difficult child tries to get me up-he complains I need to come out and be with him. He then goes to his annoying side and gets on the bed, gets on me, pushes at me, whines etc. anything for me to get up. He is almost 6. He can get cereal, juice, yogurt etc. to eat. His medications are laid out the night before-he knows the routine. Finally I get up and now he has no need for me - UGH! husband comes home with-a muffin for difficult child. Which difficult child proceeds to eat (on the outisde deck) take a bite, stand up and walk around while chewing-repeat process all while spilling crumbs everywhere (very spacially oblivious). Now difficult child wants to go to grandpartents to use his new boogie board-mind you it's not nice weather-overcast and sticky-no sun. We are to go to grandparents after 3 for swimming-boating-cookout. When told not at that moment difficult child goes "I knowwwww". Then asks again in the next 2 minutes and has a major meltdown. Gets sent to his room for time out, this causes difficult child to try to run down the stairs and out of the house. He is brought back in - this causes difficult child to begin banging on the glass of his bedrom window, throw things etc. Continues for around 30 min. Several long tantrums this weekend. Drove us nuts at grandparents that afternoon for quite a while. Saturday afternoon and Sunday where much more of the same. Asking for things that he knows aren't going to happen, then tantruming and the screaming is unreal. Scream, scream scream - so much over the time I have tinnitus, but it is hel8acious how the kid can scream. Last night husband and I wanted to send him away. The amount of stress and unhappiness this child has caused in our lived is unbelievable. Even my parents remarked how it is hard for them to find joy in their interactions with him, because he is so da*n difficult. I ended up crying in my car last night because of all of this and husband ended up joining me. He was so sick to his stomach that he didn't even go into work this am. Honestly, there is so much more that happened than I am posting here as this already so long, but we just do not know what to do anymore. If we can't get some kind of respite or more help someone will end up leaving - we cannot continue to live our lives this way. To top it all off husband and I underwent hypnosis to stop smoking this Saturday (let's talk about adding stress fuel to the fire). I don't know where to turn. Thank you for letting me vent!