I can relate to your concerns Fran. If my difficult child wasn't with b/f (and about every other day there is an issue with their relationship), she would be knocking on our doorstep and I don't want to live with her anymore. easy child is doing sooooo much better with her out of the house and I don't want to go back to the fighting, etc. They have actually built a relationship since they no longer live together. That would fall apart in a nanosecond if difficult child came back home to live. But, we dont' want to see them homeless either. So what do we do to keep them out there on their own? Pay their way, as best as we can??? Find "someone" - - "anyone" that will be roommates with them?? It is a dilema for sure.