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How to believe and not be fooled?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 624139" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I think writing from jail is alot like posting here is for us. The value in posting is that we get our thinking organized enough to write coherently. After we do post, there is that living wonder feeling of hearing from someone who understands, who has been where we are, who cares enough about us to post back. </p><p></p><p>We aren't alone with it, anymore.</p><p></p><p>We are not posting in the hope that someone will define our situations for us so much as we are posting to clarify our situations to ourselves. That your daughter wants to share herself with you at this level, that she is willing to be vulnerable to you in this way, is the beginning of trusting again, for both of you. Given that she is going to be incarcerated for some time, there is nothing you need to say, nothing you need to do for right now but love her as you already do.</p><p></p><p>Respond as honestly as you can, just like we do for one another, here.</p><p></p><p>No one can say what is going to happen over time. I am happy for you that she is willing to share her vulnerability with you, that she is looking to you for strength. I think the time to make plans about what will happen, about whether she will use again once she is out, about whether she is telling you the truth ~ all that kind of thing can happen in the months to come.</p><p></p><p>For right now, she is safe, and she loves you.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this will be the beginning of making her way back.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 624139, member: 17461"] I think writing from jail is alot like posting here is for us. The value in posting is that we get our thinking organized enough to write coherently. After we do post, there is that living wonder feeling of hearing from someone who understands, who has been where we are, who cares enough about us to post back. We aren't alone with it, anymore. We are not posting in the hope that someone will define our situations for us so much as we are posting to clarify our situations to ourselves. That your daughter wants to share herself with you at this level, that she is willing to be vulnerable to you in this way, is the beginning of trusting again, for both of you. Given that she is going to be incarcerated for some time, there is nothing you need to say, nothing you need to do for right now but love her as you already do. Respond as honestly as you can, just like we do for one another, here. No one can say what is going to happen over time. I am happy for you that she is willing to share her vulnerability with you, that she is looking to you for strength. I think the time to make plans about what will happen, about whether she will use again once she is out, about whether she is telling you the truth ~ all that kind of thing can happen in the months to come. For right now, she is safe, and she loves you. Maybe this will be the beginning of making her way back. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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