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How to calm down a kid when you have your own health scare?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 625494" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sit them ALL down at one time. Tell them EXACTLY what you want and need from them. Flat out tell them that you NEED them to stop the over worrying and the constant need for you to comfort their poor tender emotions. You need them to stop jumping all over difficult child for not reacting the way they do, for being rather under- emotional/aloof to all of this. Let them know that their treatment of difficult child does NOTHING but make the situation harder for you. Let them know that you do not have the energy or interest to deal with their constant need to fix this and their inability to fix it. </p><p></p><p>Flat out SAY that they cannot fix the medical issues, but they CAN fix the stress and disharmony in the household. They can fix it by getting some control over their need to 'help' you (it isn't at all about helping you, it is about making THEM feel better) and their misplaced anger/displeasure with difficult child when he sees no need and no benefit to attempting to 'fix' you.</p><p></p><p>Pick a project that will require some hard work. Clean out an attic, paint the house, build a gazebo, plant a special garden, dig a fire pit and put some seating around it, whatever. Think about something that YOU want done around the house that is a pretty big task. Tell them that they CANNOT fix your medical issues, but if they really want to fix something and make YOU feel better, they will do this project with/for you (depending on if you want them to do it or want to do it with them). When they are upset/needy/irritating you with all of this koi, send them to go work on the project. </p><p></p><p>Why do a project now? It is a way to burn off that excess energy caused by worry, it gives them something that they actually CAN do to 'help' you, and it lets you bring the entire family together to work on something lasting that you can later look back on and appreciate. It also gives them something to DO and keeps them busy during this waiting period before surgery/treatment starts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 625494, member: 1233"] Sit them ALL down at one time. Tell them EXACTLY what you want and need from them. Flat out tell them that you NEED them to stop the over worrying and the constant need for you to comfort their poor tender emotions. You need them to stop jumping all over difficult child for not reacting the way they do, for being rather under- emotional/aloof to all of this. Let them know that their treatment of difficult child does NOTHING but make the situation harder for you. Let them know that you do not have the energy or interest to deal with their constant need to fix this and their inability to fix it. Flat out SAY that they cannot fix the medical issues, but they CAN fix the stress and disharmony in the household. They can fix it by getting some control over their need to 'help' you (it isn't at all about helping you, it is about making THEM feel better) and their misplaced anger/displeasure with difficult child when he sees no need and no benefit to attempting to 'fix' you. Pick a project that will require some hard work. Clean out an attic, paint the house, build a gazebo, plant a special garden, dig a fire pit and put some seating around it, whatever. Think about something that YOU want done around the house that is a pretty big task. Tell them that they CANNOT fix your medical issues, but if they really want to fix something and make YOU feel better, they will do this project with/for you (depending on if you want them to do it or want to do it with them). When they are upset/needy/irritating you with all of this koi, send them to go work on the project. Why do a project now? It is a way to burn off that excess energy caused by worry, it gives them something that they actually CAN do to 'help' you, and it lets you bring the entire family together to work on something lasting that you can later look back on and appreciate. It also gives them something to DO and keeps them busy during this waiting period before surgery/treatment starts. [/QUOTE]
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