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How to choose between two children-help me please
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714382" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think its easy.</p><p></p><p>16 year old is a minor and on the receiving end of this abuse. Oldest can not safely live in a family and its time for sixteen year old to get the love and attention she missed.You dont have much time to get close to her. She could decide to leave you AND sister at eighteen. It truly isnt fair.</p><p></p><p>Your oldest daughter needs to do this herself. You have spent all your time trying to fix her. All you got in return is a broken marriage and a struggling younger daughter. And I suspect you neglect yourself too.You can not help your oldest daughter.</p><p></p><p>Tell oldest to leave. Evict her if you must. People with bipolar work and so can she. Let youngest heal. Maybe you can rekindle your marriage. Dont allow this one daughter who refuses help to destroy your life. Distance from her. Dont talk to her so much if she is abusive or guilts you. Visit her in neutral places like coffee shops.</p><p></p><p>Stop trying to fix her. It will never happen. Move on and let her fix herself. Or not. You are taking on an impossible task and giving up everyone else, including you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714382, member: 1550"] I think its easy. 16 year old is a minor and on the receiving end of this abuse. Oldest can not safely live in a family and its time for sixteen year old to get the love and attention she missed.You dont have much time to get close to her. She could decide to leave you AND sister at eighteen. It truly isnt fair. Your oldest daughter needs to do this herself. You have spent all your time trying to fix her. All you got in return is a broken marriage and a struggling younger daughter. And I suspect you neglect yourself too.You can not help your oldest daughter. Tell oldest to leave. Evict her if you must. People with bipolar work and so can she. Let youngest heal. Maybe you can rekindle your marriage. Dont allow this one daughter who refuses help to destroy your life. Distance from her. Dont talk to her so much if she is abusive or guilts you. Visit her in neutral places like coffee shops. Stop trying to fix her. It will never happen. Move on and let her fix herself. Or not. You are taking on an impossible task and giving up everyone else, including you. [/QUOTE]
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