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<blockquote data-quote="Lynn34" data-source="post: 714564" data-attributes="member: 22027"><p>Thank you. It is a comfort as I again can't sleep to read all of your words. She has rapid cycling and has had psychotic episodes. ( at least three in which saw things) and this does not include the violent fits of uncontrol. She can control more around others. When she is not cycling, she is kind, loving and affectionate so doctors don't think as much as boarderline but there are lots of shared traits. Her father has anger issues and was an alcoholic so there is also lots of trauma there. When she would cycle, he would elevate and try to "alpha dog" it out of her. I would literally put my body In The middle to protect her. So trams is there too. She also is very self centered. Will lie/steal manipulate to get what she wants. This weekend is her 18th birthday. I am just trying to keep peace. </p><p>I know something has to happen and I do have faith. I need to move at of my home so exhusband can live her with my younger daughter. They have a good relationship and I do believe that is in her best interest. </p><p>So do I rent a place that my difficult child can stay. That scares me as my home now is bust up with broken doors and holes in walls. Do I just get a small studio/1 bedroom so she can stay if needed on a couch but not have all the luxuries she is used to and hopefully motivate her. Or do I just wait for the next cycle, call the police and try to get her hospitalization and let hospital know she can no longer live with me. Soooo much at once. My brain is going to explode. I will try a new doctor for me this Monday. I need someone to hold me accountable to the boundaries, not fold when my heart is broken. I need someone to help navigate this madness. I am spinning. </p><p>It would be so much easier if she accepted problem and wanted help. She believes she is an empath and picks up on everyone's energy. She believes if she is just around positive energy it is ok. That is not possible in life. Life is life. There are ups and downs and disappointments. </p><p>The next few days will be the hardest of our lifes. I took a leave from work. I just need as much support as I can get. She needs help and is not going to get it if nothing changes here. I love her so much. I do not blame her. I don't take the horrible words personally. I know it is the disorder not her soul talking. There is a genetic component that has been exasperated by family dynamics. Her father could not shout it out of her and I could not love it out. </p><p>Today I just pray.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lynn34, post: 714564, member: 22027"] Thank you. It is a comfort as I again can't sleep to read all of your words. She has rapid cycling and has had psychotic episodes. ( at least three in which saw things) and this does not include the violent fits of uncontrol. She can control more around others. When she is not cycling, she is kind, loving and affectionate so doctors don't think as much as boarderline but there are lots of shared traits. Her father has anger issues and was an alcoholic so there is also lots of trauma there. When she would cycle, he would elevate and try to "alpha dog" it out of her. I would literally put my body In The middle to protect her. So trams is there too. She also is very self centered. Will lie/steal manipulate to get what she wants. This weekend is her 18th birthday. I am just trying to keep peace. I know something has to happen and I do have faith. I need to move at of my home so exhusband can live her with my younger daughter. They have a good relationship and I do believe that is in her best interest. So do I rent a place that my difficult child can stay. That scares me as my home now is bust up with broken doors and holes in walls. Do I just get a small studio/1 bedroom so she can stay if needed on a couch but not have all the luxuries she is used to and hopefully motivate her. Or do I just wait for the next cycle, call the police and try to get her hospitalization and let hospital know she can no longer live with me. Soooo much at once. My brain is going to explode. I will try a new doctor for me this Monday. I need someone to hold me accountable to the boundaries, not fold when my heart is broken. I need someone to help navigate this madness. I am spinning. It would be so much easier if she accepted problem and wanted help. She believes she is an empath and picks up on everyone's energy. She believes if she is just around positive energy it is ok. That is not possible in life. Life is life. There are ups and downs and disappointments. The next few days will be the hardest of our lifes. I took a leave from work. I just need as much support as I can get. She needs help and is not going to get it if nothing changes here. I love her so much. I do not blame her. I don't take the horrible words personally. I know it is the disorder not her soul talking. There is a genetic component that has been exasperated by family dynamics. Her father could not shout it out of her and I could not love it out. Today I just pray. [/QUOTE]
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