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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 57148" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I hate to recommend what I'm doing to anyone else, because it is life consuming. It means not much personal time during the day for me except potty breaks. But we've been doing it for 3 weeks now and things have calmed down BIG TIME.</p><p></p><p>I have blocked out 30 minute time periods from the time I wake up, until the time the kids go to sleep. Each 30 minutes each kid does something different. TV time (they get to choose whats on), playstation/gamecube time, computer time, reading time, journal time (write about their day in a spiral), parent time (individual time with me or husband) and family time.</p><p></p><p>I make family time the largest block of time. I do this from 1130-200. This allows me time to take them to a movie, roller skating, to the park, pool, whatever. But even if I stay at home and play UNO or a board game, family time is not optional, everyone must participate. I schedule breakfast, after breakfast I have outside time. They go in the backyard and play, or we go for a walk in the neighborhood. When we come home, its reading time for the kids, while I jump in the shower really quick. Then its lunch, then family time, then the afternoon is spent in 30 minute intervals changing each activity each kid does. But it is mandatory for my difficult children. They must do what is on the schedule and I tell them it is to keep them from getting into trouble. They seem to understand that and are happy to be playing and not driving anyone nuts. My oldest difficult child is my worst about getting on nerves.</p><p></p><p>Anyways, I would pick things that work in your house. It all depends on what activities your kids enjoy and what they are allowed to do. If they like jumping on the trampoline, have that be a 30 minute period. Just keep each kid doing something different each 30 minutes, so they stay away from eachother. The only together time is supervised by you during family time.</p><p></p><p>Not sure if it will work for anyone else but us. I just didn't know what else to do. My difficult children were driving me to drink a week into summer. This has helped and I don't even mind having to skip my shows on tv, because my house is so much more pleasant.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 57148, member: 3837"] I hate to recommend what I'm doing to anyone else, because it is life consuming. It means not much personal time during the day for me except potty breaks. But we've been doing it for 3 weeks now and things have calmed down BIG TIME. I have blocked out 30 minute time periods from the time I wake up, until the time the kids go to sleep. Each 30 minutes each kid does something different. TV time (they get to choose whats on), playstation/gamecube time, computer time, reading time, journal time (write about their day in a spiral), parent time (individual time with me or husband) and family time. I make family time the largest block of time. I do this from 1130-200. This allows me time to take them to a movie, roller skating, to the park, pool, whatever. But even if I stay at home and play UNO or a board game, family time is not optional, everyone must participate. I schedule breakfast, after breakfast I have outside time. They go in the backyard and play, or we go for a walk in the neighborhood. When we come home, its reading time for the kids, while I jump in the shower really quick. Then its lunch, then family time, then the afternoon is spent in 30 minute intervals changing each activity each kid does. But it is mandatory for my difficult children. They must do what is on the schedule and I tell them it is to keep them from getting into trouble. They seem to understand that and are happy to be playing and not driving anyone nuts. My oldest difficult child is my worst about getting on nerves. Anyways, I would pick things that work in your house. It all depends on what activities your kids enjoy and what they are allowed to do. If they like jumping on the trampoline, have that be a 30 minute period. Just keep each kid doing something different each 30 minutes, so they stay away from eachother. The only together time is supervised by you during family time. Not sure if it will work for anyone else but us. I just didn't know what else to do. My difficult children were driving me to drink a week into summer. This has helped and I don't even mind having to skip my shows on tv, because my house is so much more pleasant. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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