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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 657371" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi JulieAnn: I am so glad you decided to post, but so sorry you are going through this. Many of us like you, have adult children that have been or still are in situations as is your son.</p><p></p><p>First, the nuts and bolts. With the Affordable Care Act and even before, indigents without medical insurance pay nothing for emergency care in an emergency hospital or hospital where I live. </p><p></p><p>I know undocumented people, let alone Citizens who have required extended hospitalization, treatment, even surgery for long term ailments such as cancer, who pay nothing.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, as you know your son is trying to manipulate you to extract money. As you have faced already that he is likely addicted to drugs, any money you send him supports a drug habit.</p><p></p><p>As posted RecoveringEnabler, we need to focus upon our own recovery first. Our sons are adults. We are adults.</p><p></p><p>However sad I feel to type these words, our sons will change if and when they choose. We have control only over our own choices.</p><p></p><p>We do not need to suffer if our children are not thriving, as if they are toddlers. They are men, who can choose their own destinies, regardless of the limitations they face.</p><p></p><p>We have done our job. This does not mean we are deserting them. It means we learn to respect them, by giving them the space to seek solutions for themselves, or not. They decide.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 657371, member: 18958"] Hi JulieAnn: I am so glad you decided to post, but so sorry you are going through this. Many of us like you, have adult children that have been or still are in situations as is your son. First, the nuts and bolts. With the Affordable Care Act and even before, indigents without medical insurance pay nothing for emergency care in an emergency hospital or hospital where I live. I know undocumented people, let alone Citizens who have required extended hospitalization, treatment, even surgery for long term ailments such as cancer, who pay nothing. Unfortunately, as you know your son is trying to manipulate you to extract money. As you have faced already that he is likely addicted to drugs, any money you send him supports a drug habit. As posted RecoveringEnabler, we need to focus upon our own recovery first. Our sons are adults. We are adults. However sad I feel to type these words, our sons will change if and when they choose. We have control only over our own choices. We do not need to suffer if our children are not thriving, as if they are toddlers. They are men, who can choose their own destinies, regardless of the limitations they face. We have done our job. This does not mean we are deserting them. It means we learn to respect them, by giving them the space to seek solutions for themselves, or not. They decide. [/QUOTE]
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