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How to stop enabling abusive narcissistic entitled adult children
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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 752819" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>JM</p><p></p><p>You sound like you've arrived at a good place. When we finally stop accepting the verbal abuse, is the beginning of a new day for us!</p><p></p><p>It took me a very, very long time to arrive here. Somehow, we get ourselves trapped in a place of obligation to our adult children. We feel we are supposed to tolerate whatever cr*p they throw at us out of their own anger, inability to function, addictions, dissappointments etc. There's like a "bad committee" in our heads telling us "just take this kind of abuse one more time because, gosh they were good kids and they're having a tough time." When in reality, none of us adults could successfully or rightfully so dish this kind of stuff out to people we work with or live with, without ramifications. </p><p></p><p>I've only arrived "on the other side" a few months now. Yes, there's still some hurt when I know adult kids are sleeping in cars, in the cold and possibly starving. But this has been going on for a few years now (off and on) and I've finally learned to step out of the way and not be a human verbal punching bag for all their hurt, pain and sorrow. They will never get better if I try to intervene and soften all the ups and downs life throws at them. I pray for them all the time but I'm trying to let them figure this out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 752819, member: 23405"] JM You sound like you've arrived at a good place. When we finally stop accepting the verbal abuse, is the beginning of a new day for us! It took me a very, very long time to arrive here. Somehow, we get ourselves trapped in a place of obligation to our adult children. We feel we are supposed to tolerate whatever cr*p they throw at us out of their own anger, inability to function, addictions, dissappointments etc. There's like a "bad committee" in our heads telling us "just take this kind of abuse one more time because, gosh they were good kids and they're having a tough time." When in reality, none of us adults could successfully or rightfully so dish this kind of stuff out to people we work with or live with, without ramifications. I've only arrived "on the other side" a few months now. Yes, there's still some hurt when I know adult kids are sleeping in cars, in the cold and possibly starving. But this has been going on for a few years now (off and on) and I've finally learned to step out of the way and not be a human verbal punching bag for all their hurt, pain and sorrow. They will never get better if I try to intervene and soften all the ups and downs life throws at them. I pray for them all the time but I'm trying to let them figure this out. [/QUOTE]
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