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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 763656" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Tommi,</p><p>I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this. It is hard enough to know that our wayward adult children are out there doing Lord knows what, but to have their choices thrown in our face, with distressing emotional blackmail, that’s unacceptable.</p><p></p><p>This is abuse. Plain and simple. There is nothing wrong with blocking his number and giving yourself a break. Some breathing room. There is no way anyone can live with this amount of stress. I don’t know if your son is living in your town, I would take seriously any threats he makes towards you or your home. You may need to get authorities involved and definitely need to take steps to protect yourself, especially your emotional well being. Please don’t allow yourself to be a victim to this kind of abusive manipulation. You have value and worth, your life matters. I pray for your strength and well being. It doesn’t look like your son will stop this anytime soon. It’s going to be up to you to say no more. What he does as an adult is on him, not you.</p><p>Take care of you, mama. It’s not selfish, it’s self preservation. I know you love your son, but right now, he is not thinking or acting clearly. You do not have to continue to be a rug that he can walk all over, because you are his mother. Unfortunately, we are usually the go-tos, because we have resources. Our wayward adult kids are in the position they are, because of their choices. They will try to put it on us, guilt us over whatever parenting mistakes we made, the list goes on. We have to go through our own journey and recovery from the shock and trauma of our kids choices. One day at a time. Do something good for yourself and build up your boundaries. What we allow, will continue. Unfortunately, we are not dealing with a normal situation. It takes time and working on our own self worth and self love, to be able to deal with the sadness and baggage that comes with addicted loved ones.</p><p>Please take care!</p><p>You are not alone.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>New Leaf</p><p>Ps- You are posting on an old thread. You may get more responses if you start your own thread. </p><p>Stay well!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 763656, member: 19522"] Hi Tommi, I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this. It is hard enough to know that our wayward adult children are out there doing Lord knows what, but to have their choices thrown in our face, with distressing emotional blackmail, that’s unacceptable. This is abuse. Plain and simple. There is nothing wrong with blocking his number and giving yourself a break. Some breathing room. There is no way anyone can live with this amount of stress. I don’t know if your son is living in your town, I would take seriously any threats he makes towards you or your home. You may need to get authorities involved and definitely need to take steps to protect yourself, especially your emotional well being. Please don’t allow yourself to be a victim to this kind of abusive manipulation. You have value and worth, your life matters. I pray for your strength and well being. It doesn’t look like your son will stop this anytime soon. It’s going to be up to you to say no more. What he does as an adult is on him, not you. Take care of you, mama. It’s not selfish, it’s self preservation. I know you love your son, but right now, he is not thinking or acting clearly. You do not have to continue to be a rug that he can walk all over, because you are his mother. Unfortunately, we are usually the go-tos, because we have resources. Our wayward adult kids are in the position they are, because of their choices. They will try to put it on us, guilt us over whatever parenting mistakes we made, the list goes on. We have to go through our own journey and recovery from the shock and trauma of our kids choices. One day at a time. Do something good for yourself and build up your boundaries. What we allow, will continue. Unfortunately, we are not dealing with a normal situation. It takes time and working on our own self worth and self love, to be able to deal with the sadness and baggage that comes with addicted loved ones. Please take care! You are not alone. (((Hugs))) New Leaf Ps- You are posting on an old thread. You may get more responses if you start your own thread. Stay well! [/QUOTE]
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