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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 52123" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Pamela,</p><p></p><p>Suppressing the anger does nothing but hurt you. If difficult child struggles to respect property in certain rooms, maybe he shouldn't be allowed to sit in that room.</p><p></p><p>I have to say that husband & I, long ago, put away anything of value (sentimental or otherwise) to us. We recognized if we wanted that item we needed to guard it safely - slowly, I'm putting various items back out. </p><p></p><p>I've also spent time recognizing that the tweedles will take a lot of time to grow; as the adult my response needs to change. I get angry for disrespect toward my personal property (from the mess left in my car to the sense of entitlement kt feels when using my sewing supplies or plopping down to use my computer).</p><p></p><p>At therapist's yesterday I let kt know that I was going to allow myself to be angry at her choices. She's of an age where she needs to know that I'm not happy with her. therapist agreed that it's time to allow kt to see that parents are indeed human & have feelings. It's okay to display my anger (appropriately), express my frustrations & take time to myself to re-center myself. therapist told kt that she needs to let me do that just as husband, myself, school, day treatment & everyone else involved allows her.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry Pamela - seem to be rambling here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 52123, member: 393"] Pamela, Suppressing the anger does nothing but hurt you. If difficult child struggles to respect property in certain rooms, maybe he shouldn't be allowed to sit in that room. I have to say that husband & I, long ago, put away anything of value (sentimental or otherwise) to us. We recognized if we wanted that item we needed to guard it safely - slowly, I'm putting various items back out. I've also spent time recognizing that the tweedles will take a lot of time to grow; as the adult my response needs to change. I get angry for disrespect toward my personal property (from the mess left in my car to the sense of entitlement kt feels when using my sewing supplies or plopping down to use my computer). At therapist's yesterday I let kt know that I was going to allow myself to be angry at her choices. She's of an age where she needs to know that I'm not happy with her. therapist agreed that it's time to allow kt to see that parents are indeed human & have feelings. It's okay to display my anger (appropriately), express my frustrations & take time to myself to re-center myself. therapist told kt that she needs to let me do that just as husband, myself, school, day treatment & everyone else involved allows her. I'm sorry Pamela - seem to be rambling here. [/QUOTE]
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