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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 693347" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi guys. I work through a medical registry as an independent contractor. All the registry does is negotiate pay, collate paperwork to place us, and pay me. They have not one bit of responsibility or risk. I bear it all. Which made my feelings more urgent. I carry my own malpractice insurance. It is my professional license at stake. And you would think the pay would be great. It is not. It has gone down 30 percent in the last 9 years. I work there because I really love the inmates, I am appreciated my them, and I feel, really, really that the work is worth doing well.</p><p></p><p>So this is what I did: First I bugged M and kept asking him what to do and say until he was really pissed. He felt like I forgot the plan within 2 minutes of hearing it. He kept saying stuff like:</p><p></p><p>Don't make yourself the victim.</p><p>Don't act like a martyr.</p><p>You are not a quitter. Don't throw in the towel.</p><p>Take responsibility.</p><p>Fight for yourself. Defend yourself.</p><p>Your only choices are to demand what you need to make it work, or to leave. You will not change them.</p><p>I will not be mad or think less of you if you quit.</p><p>The money is not important.</p><p>I think you still have it in you to do this work, and do it well.</p><p>You love your work.</p><p></p><p>And while each statement made sense in itself, I could not put them together into a sense of what I could say that would work. That they would hear. That I could say, and not accuse them, or beg them--demeaning myself. Especially because I did feel like their victim, I did feel that it was them setting me up, and I did feel helpless to solve the problem.</p><p></p><p>By the time I arrived at work I realized (as did you guys) that the only option I had was to tell the truth about where I was. To talk to the 3 of them together.</p><p></p><p>To me, taking responsibility to solve the problem was realizing it was not my problem it was theirs and I was not going to take it on myself. Nor was I going to sacrifice my own self-esteem about myself as a professional, or my integrity or my feelings of pride in having a great career--for their fxxin problems.</p><p></p><p>I went into the office. Two were there. I was unafraid.</p><p></p><p>I said this: <em>I have realized that I am in a train wreck and the trains keep coming down the track. I need to stop them. So far, I have been left to my own devices, without training. And it is not working. Three days this past week (I work only 4 10 hour days) I have been scheduled a full complement of new patients, requiring full evaluations--when I am either not allowed in the prison, assigned to custody type trainings, or not scheduled to be at work. I am taking responsibility to do this work. But I need your support here, so that I can succeed. </em></p><p></p><p>They listened attentively and did not seem mad (I wonder if they were shocked that I had the nerve because their eyes did not leave me. You see, I act very gracious and even submissive) until one (the older one, said something snarky, like <em>what do you expect, that we should sit down with you and hold your hand?</em> Which is exactly what happens in most other facilities, where you are given somebody to shadow, or sit with, or formal training for weeks, or somebody to observe. I have done it myself for others, many times.)</p><p></p><p>So quickly, like a poisonous asp, I responded: <em>Fine. I am prepared to give notice. We will now transition to that topic. I have had a stellar career and I will not put that in the balance.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Guess how quickly his tone changed? So, by this point, I was feeling a bit high strung, but empowered, so I continued.</p><p></p><p><em>This is what I require: No more new work to come. For now.. Stop the trains until I have completed the work that has built up, until I learn your procedures. I understand now that I will not be receiving training, the training that was promised repeatedly. </em></p><p></p><p><em>I am willing to do my best, with the understanding that I will be training myself, and you will be responsible for reviewing my work, and giving me feedback. I was put in an impossible situation, not of my making but I am willing to do that.</em></p><p></p><p>At this point, they were totally and completely submissive and compliant. There has been no more attitude or snarkiness. They seem a trifle afraid of me. Good. One of them said, <em>nobody could have done better in the situation you found yourself in.</em></p><p></p><p>The thing is: Nobody meets their standards. Almost nobody. Because the work load and the standards are impossible. And near everybody is burnt out.</p><p></p><p>F-in jerks. Thanks guys.</p><p></p><p>PS. Tomorrow is the deadline when I have to present the cases to interdisciplinary treatment team. I finished. I even enjoyed myself a great deal today with some patients. I think I am over the worst part. Because I remembered who I was. I am excellent at my work. I will not allow myself to be defined by their mistreatment of me.</p><p></p><p>M was right. I defend and take care of myself, and fight for myself and define myself. I cannot change anybody. Either I change or leave. It seems I was prepared to do both.</p><p></p><p>Yay Me. Thank you everybody for your support and your care and counsel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 693347, member: 18958"] Hi guys. I work through a medical registry as an independent contractor. All the registry does is negotiate pay, collate paperwork to place us, and pay me. They have not one bit of responsibility or risk. I bear it all. Which made my feelings more urgent. I carry my own malpractice insurance. It is my professional license at stake. And you would think the pay would be great. It is not. It has gone down 30 percent in the last 9 years. I work there because I really love the inmates, I am appreciated my them, and I feel, really, really that the work is worth doing well. So this is what I did: First I bugged M and kept asking him what to do and say until he was really pissed. He felt like I forgot the plan within 2 minutes of hearing it. He kept saying stuff like: Don't make yourself the victim. Don't act like a martyr. You are not a quitter. Don't throw in the towel. Take responsibility. Fight for yourself. Defend yourself. Your only choices are to demand what you need to make it work, or to leave. You will not change them. I will not be mad or think less of you if you quit. The money is not important. I think you still have it in you to do this work, and do it well. You love your work. And while each statement made sense in itself, I could not put them together into a sense of what I could say that would work. That they would hear. That I could say, and not accuse them, or beg them--demeaning myself. Especially because I did feel like their victim, I did feel that it was them setting me up, and I did feel helpless to solve the problem. By the time I arrived at work I realized (as did you guys) that the only option I had was to tell the truth about where I was. To talk to the 3 of them together. To me, taking responsibility to solve the problem was realizing it was not my problem it was theirs and I was not going to take it on myself. Nor was I going to sacrifice my own self-esteem about myself as a professional, or my integrity or my feelings of pride in having a great career--for their fxxin problems. I went into the office. Two were there. I was unafraid. I said this: [I]I have realized that I am in a train wreck and the trains keep coming down the track. I need to stop them. So far, I have been left to my own devices, without training. And it is not working. Three days this past week (I work only 4 10 hour days) I have been scheduled a full complement of new patients, requiring full evaluations--when I am either not allowed in the prison, assigned to custody type trainings, or not scheduled to be at work. I am taking responsibility to do this work. But I need your support here, so that I can succeed. [/I] They listened attentively and did not seem mad (I wonder if they were shocked that I had the nerve because their eyes did not leave me. You see, I act very gracious and even submissive) until one (the older one, said something snarky, like [I]what do you expect, that we should sit down with you and hold your hand?[/I] Which is exactly what happens in most other facilities, where you are given somebody to shadow, or sit with, or formal training for weeks, or somebody to observe. I have done it myself for others, many times.) So quickly, like a poisonous asp, I responded: [I]Fine. I am prepared to give notice. We will now transition to that topic. I have had a stellar career and I will not put that in the balance. [/I] Guess how quickly his tone changed? So, by this point, I was feeling a bit high strung, but empowered, so I continued. [I]This is what I require: No more new work to come. For now.. Stop the trains until I have completed the work that has built up, until I learn your procedures. I understand now that I will not be receiving training, the training that was promised repeatedly. [/I] [I]I am willing to do my best, with the understanding that I will be training myself, and you will be responsible for reviewing my work, and giving me feedback. I was put in an impossible situation, not of my making but I am willing to do that.[/I] At this point, they were totally and completely submissive and compliant. There has been no more attitude or snarkiness. They seem a trifle afraid of me. Good. One of them said, [I]nobody could have done better in the situation you found yourself in.[/I] The thing is: Nobody meets their standards. Almost nobody. Because the work load and the standards are impossible. And near everybody is burnt out. F-in jerks. Thanks guys. PS. Tomorrow is the deadline when I have to present the cases to interdisciplinary treatment team. I finished. I even enjoyed myself a great deal today with some patients. I think I am over the worst part. Because I remembered who I was. I am excellent at my work. I will not allow myself to be defined by their mistreatment of me. M was right. I defend and take care of myself, and fight for myself and define myself. I cannot change anybody. Either I change or leave. It seems I was prepared to do both. Yay Me. Thank you everybody for your support and your care and counsel. [/QUOTE]
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