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How to truly go no contact if you sadly must
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744846" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Heh. I deleted that part but its true. In her case I think her abusive boyfriend inspired her. He was a monster really but if somebody got sick he would play the hero. He needed to hide the monster and be admired. His neighbors thought he was the best.</p><p></p><p>I believe my sister very much wanted to also be admired. She wanted to be the prettiest and the most admirable. I believe that her anorexia is because she thinks skinny makes her more beautiful. From way back she wanted admiration. Most popular. Favorite child (never happened with either parent). Best house. The house story is a legend but I dont want to tell the whole thiing. Lets just say her hub had no choice and his father paid for a lot of it or it couldnt have been built. Money, material stuff means tons to her.</p><p></p><p>She also wanted to SOUND important.</p><p></p><p>Example: She is a teacher aid in a special needs classroom. She calls herself something like a paraprofessional. Kind of like a janitor calling himself a Mechanical Engineer. Both admirable jobs but you dont need a high educational level for either one. Fancy titles. To enhance an average level job.</p><p></p><p>I looked up to and admired my sister very much early on. I truly thought she was the stable one ofothe three of us. i had no idea she had more problems than me. And she didnt work on her stuff.</p><p></p><p> Never in a million years would I have dated an abuser for ten years! That alone says it all. There is so much more but that sums it up. She thinks little of herself. Nothing good comes from self hate. And dating someone for that long who mistreats you very badly is self hate. I dont believe she will ever leave him.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744846, member: 1550"] Heh. I deleted that part but its true. In her case I think her abusive boyfriend inspired her. He was a monster really but if somebody got sick he would play the hero. He needed to hide the monster and be admired. His neighbors thought he was the best. I believe my sister very much wanted to also be admired. She wanted to be the prettiest and the most admirable. I believe that her anorexia is because she thinks skinny makes her more beautiful. From way back she wanted admiration. Most popular. Favorite child (never happened with either parent). Best house. The house story is a legend but I dont want to tell the whole thiing. Lets just say her hub had no choice and his father paid for a lot of it or it couldnt have been built. Money, material stuff means tons to her. She also wanted to SOUND important. Example: She is a teacher aid in a special needs classroom. She calls herself something like a paraprofessional. Kind of like a janitor calling himself a Mechanical Engineer. Both admirable jobs but you dont need a high educational level for either one. Fancy titles. To enhance an average level job. I looked up to and admired my sister very much early on. I truly thought she was the stable one ofothe three of us. i had no idea she had more problems than me. And she didnt work on her stuff. Never in a million years would I have dated an abuser for ten years! That alone says it all. There is so much more but that sums it up. She thinks little of herself. Nothing good comes from self hate. And dating someone for that long who mistreats you very badly is self hate. I dont believe she will ever leave him. Anyhow love and light! [/QUOTE]
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