I need some advice. I only recently learned that my son's very very severe ADHD is likely Aspberger's and ADHD combined. It's a great relief to learn that the reason his medications never worked for the most difficult behaviours was due to another condition altogether. Unfortunately, learning that he has Aspberger's has led to my little angel acting out and using Aspberger's as an excuse to bully and boss us around. We've been having power struggles for 3 weeks consistently and tonight, I finally snapped when, like every night (no exageration...every night), he complained about his meal. He gagged on his Kraft Dinner because it wasn't cheesy enough, he decided he didn't like peas any more and his chicken tasted funny. Meals are always difficult, but tonight, I snapped. I feel terrible now because I yelled at him and sent him to bed without any supper. I know discipline is important, but yelling at him accomplishes nothing. It just knocks his self-esteem down and he cries. He only hears the bad things and doesn't benefit from it at all. I spent the last couple of hours crying and feeling like **** and I know that throughout all this battle, the main reason for his outbursts are due to his little sister recently having some seizures. She is ten and epilepsy runs in our family, so she's had to go for tests and doctor's appointments and we've had to give her a little more attention. We've tried to ensure that he still gets lots of attention, but he's forcing us to give a lot of negative attention due to his outbursts. He is thirteen and throws himself on the floor, hits his head on the wall, throws items at us and hits his sister. I've explained this is not acceptable. He's lost priveleges, been grounded and had toys taken away, but he doesn't care. My solution is: #1 - he is to cook his own meals from now on, ensuring he is covering the 4 food groups. #2 - he is to follow our rules 100% of the time #3 - he is to keep his hands to himself and throwing stuff is unacceptable #4 - he is to do his own laundry because he keeps leaving it on the floor and waiting for others to pick up after him. These behaviours continue to occur although I am positive that he has consequences and they do not work and he never gets his own way. Even friends and family comment on that because it makes no sense. I'm constantly being tested by him and want to scream! I know life's not fair and all that, but tonight, I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself. I usually try to see it from his point of view, but I need to take care of me in order to be a better mom for him. Most of the time, we feel like we are dealing with a four year old, rather than a thirteen year old. He is manipulative and sneaky. He steals money from us, sneaks treats in the night and hides garbage in his room. My husband is a transport truck driver and isn't home consistently. He isn't there a lot of the times when I need the support or help dealing with temper tantrums. I need to make it clear that he is very high-functioning. He gets great marks on tests, is passing well, although his behaviour causes his marks to be lower than they should be. He is forgetful, unorganized and sloppy. A lot of negative there, but he is also a very charming boy who is very loveable and likeable. He is very detail oriented and specific. He is smart and constantly correcting us lol. It's adorable, although at times, inappropriate. haha There's a lot of positive, but I'm in a negative mood at the moment and can't think straight. Anyway, with one child with Asperger's/ADHD and the other potentially Epileptic, I'm emotionally exhausted and I need some suggestions on how to recoupe. I'm a stay at home mom, I'm very organized (to the point of Obsessive Compulsive) and clean constantly, whether it needs it or not. I feel burnt out and need an outlet. I've started exercising, but often it becomes more like a chore and have begun walking my daughter to school instead, so I get a nice 20 minute walk home by myself and know that my little girl has arrived safely and seizure free. This outlet isn't enough. When my son comes home, all hell breaks loose and the fighting between siblings begins. I live in a nut house/circus and I'm pooped. Please Help!