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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 220504" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Judy, I've learned to NOT compare - there have been times when I needed to feel miserable. While it's not healthy to always wallow in misery, sometimes you need to, to go through it, and being told tat you should pull yourself together, stop being selfish and remember that other people have it far worse - doesn't help one little bit.</p><p></p><p>I've learned that MY pain is what I cope with, I mightn't cope so well with someone else's pain. Or I might cope better. We have no way of knowing and even thinking about it is a futile exercise.</p><p></p><p>I've had people say to me, "After talking to you I realise I have absolutely no right to complain; you are chronically ill, you haven't been able to work for over 20 years, You're in constant pain, and now three of your children are on the autism spectrum - I'm never going to dare complain again!"</p><p></p><p>But that's not right - just because I have a load doesn't mean people can't complain to me about their ingrown toenails, if they want to. Crikey, if I don't understand pain, who will?</p><p></p><p>And about mentioning your faith, Judy - I gather that's OK, as long as you're not telling other people that they should only believe what you do or in any other way making people feel uncomfortable or excluded. People can have different faiths but still find that prayer is a comfort. Or maybe have no faith but find meditation, or simply being still, is helpful. We all do what we can to help us cope and shouldn't detract from what other people need to do, in order to manage for themselves.</p><p></p><p>Exercise - definitely a good thing to mention as it is known to help with depression. And scrapbooking - easy child is heavily involved in that, she loves it. She's always busy with her hands, it is an important way for her to cope. I like various hobby crafts too. It's good to be reminded sometimes of the range of choices we have. The most important thing I guess is for us to take time out from our troubles and make sure we are getting our own needs met, in the midst of all the confusion and unpredictability.</p><p></p><p>Good to have you on board!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 220504, member: 1991"] Judy, I've learned to NOT compare - there have been times when I needed to feel miserable. While it's not healthy to always wallow in misery, sometimes you need to, to go through it, and being told tat you should pull yourself together, stop being selfish and remember that other people have it far worse - doesn't help one little bit. I've learned that MY pain is what I cope with, I mightn't cope so well with someone else's pain. Or I might cope better. We have no way of knowing and even thinking about it is a futile exercise. I've had people say to me, "After talking to you I realise I have absolutely no right to complain; you are chronically ill, you haven't been able to work for over 20 years, You're in constant pain, and now three of your children are on the autism spectrum - I'm never going to dare complain again!" But that's not right - just because I have a load doesn't mean people can't complain to me about their ingrown toenails, if they want to. Crikey, if I don't understand pain, who will? And about mentioning your faith, Judy - I gather that's OK, as long as you're not telling other people that they should only believe what you do or in any other way making people feel uncomfortable or excluded. People can have different faiths but still find that prayer is a comfort. Or maybe have no faith but find meditation, or simply being still, is helpful. We all do what we can to help us cope and shouldn't detract from what other people need to do, in order to manage for themselves. Exercise - definitely a good thing to mention as it is known to help with depression. And scrapbooking - easy child is heavily involved in that, she loves it. She's always busy with her hands, it is an important way for her to cope. I like various hobby crafts too. It's good to be reminded sometimes of the range of choices we have. The most important thing I guess is for us to take time out from our troubles and make sure we are getting our own needs met, in the midst of all the confusion and unpredictability. Good to have you on board! Marg [/QUOTE]
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