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how will he pass a crimminal background check?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 628793" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Worried Mom, I hired an attorney for my son the first few times. No more.</p><p></p><p>The court will appoint an attorney for him. That is the law. It won't cost you anything. The last ___ times (I've lost count) difficult child has been arrested, he has been represented by a court-appointed lawyer.</p><p></p><p>The last time, he was in rehab, and we wanted to help him a little more, so I have a lawyer friend who called in a favor and we got a lawyer. Also the DA is a friend of my ex-husband's. We actually didn't want difficult child to get any special favors, so we asked for none.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child needs to decide he doesn't want to live like this any longer. Until he does, no lawyer in the world can or should "get him off."</p><p></p><p>He must face the consequences.</p><p></p><p>Obviously, your son is not deterred by being arrested. Neither is mine. Maybe some time in jail will deter him. It hasn't for my son, but everybody is different.</p><p></p><p>Your son must face his own consequences.</p><p></p><p>Start working on yourself, Worried Mom. Take some of this energy you are talking about---currently focused on your son---and make a daily plan for your own recovery.</p><p></p><p>That is your best use of your time and energy. Believe me, it is.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 628793, member: 17542"] Worried Mom, I hired an attorney for my son the first few times. No more. The court will appoint an attorney for him. That is the law. It won't cost you anything. The last ___ times (I've lost count) difficult child has been arrested, he has been represented by a court-appointed lawyer. The last time, he was in rehab, and we wanted to help him a little more, so I have a lawyer friend who called in a favor and we got a lawyer. Also the DA is a friend of my ex-husband's. We actually didn't want difficult child to get any special favors, so we asked for none. Our difficult child needs to decide he doesn't want to live like this any longer. Until he does, no lawyer in the world can or should "get him off." He must face the consequences. Obviously, your son is not deterred by being arrested. Neither is mine. Maybe some time in jail will deter him. It hasn't for my son, but everybody is different. Your son must face his own consequences. Start working on yourself, Worried Mom. Take some of this energy you are talking about---currently focused on your son---and make a daily plan for your own recovery. That is your best use of your time and energy. Believe me, it is. Hugs to you today. [/QUOTE]
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