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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714454" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I very much value my relationship with my son and he is the most dependent on me although he is almost 40!</p><p></p><p></p><p>But i have boundaries. He can have a relationship with me, but abusing me can not be part of our relatuonship. I will not talk to him for several days if he is even a little abusive. I give an inch he will take a mile. Since he knows I am serious about the consequences, he almost never abuses me now.</p><p></p><p>For me, it is easier because he lives two statrs away and is stuck there due to his child, whom he loves very much. </p><p></p><p>I talk to son almost every day but almost never see him. His unwillingness to drive to meet me halfway and my.limlited ability to get good transportation there keep us physically apart. I consider this a good thing. He could never live with me. The last time my ex visited him, our son got right in his face and scared frail 70 year old ex. Seriously, i am not frail but dont need that. I remember when he did that to me in his 20s...those days are over. He is mean when he is angry. He has even shoved my ex. No thanks.</p><p></p><p>I see my three other kids a lot. None of them would ever act like that.</p><p></p><p>I feel we need to stay safe. I hope you do!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714454, member: 1550"] I very much value my relationship with my son and he is the most dependent on me although he is almost 40! But i have boundaries. He can have a relationship with me, but abusing me can not be part of our relatuonship. I will not talk to him for several days if he is even a little abusive. I give an inch he will take a mile. Since he knows I am serious about the consequences, he almost never abuses me now. For me, it is easier because he lives two statrs away and is stuck there due to his child, whom he loves very much. I talk to son almost every day but almost never see him. His unwillingness to drive to meet me halfway and my.limlited ability to get good transportation there keep us physically apart. I consider this a good thing. He could never live with me. The last time my ex visited him, our son got right in his face and scared frail 70 year old ex. Seriously, i am not frail but dont need that. I remember when he did that to me in his 20s...those days are over. He is mean when he is angry. He has even shoved my ex. No thanks. I see my three other kids a lot. None of them would ever act like that. I feel we need to stay safe. I hope you do! [/QUOTE]
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