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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 728347" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>I no longer let myself question what we did and will continue to do for our son. I don’t expect anyone to actually understand our situation or for me to truely understand another’s. We all have different situations and people are not all the same, even addicts are not all the same. I will never judge a parent who has had to distance themselves but I also don’t want my choices to be judged either, however I’d not let it affect me if someone did (or does). I feel at peace with how we have continued to support our son, even when it looked like he didn’t care or maybe others thought we shouldn’t. </p><p></p><p>I appreciate your personal story tommorowtoday, we have chased our son around and picked up the pieces more than once the last four years. We have lectured and loved. Some days I didn’t think I could do it anymore. Then one day he decided he couldn’t do it anymore either. And he called me crying saying “I need detox”... it wasn’t a smooth road , and he slipped a few times and needed an intervention but he has slowly pulled himself out of the gutters. I am so glad we never gave up on him, even when he gave up on himself. I told him almost daily I loved him. He wasn’t always very lovable. </p><p></p><p>I know my story is not the same as anyone else’s and that is why what we did worked for us but may not work for anyone else. </p><p></p><p>I know until you have lived this horrible horrible life with loving an addict there is no way anyone can judge you. It’s not something anyone could imagine when their sweet hold is young and still so protected. The loss of being able to protect your child is traumatic . It is the scariest thing I have ever experienced. </p><p></p><p>Son is doing great, he had his moments when I worry but he seems to be navigating his way. I am so very thankful to not be worrying about his life on a daily basis. He is home every night and goes to school every day. This is a miracle. I could not invision this a year ago. </p><p></p><p>Please do not give up hope on your kids. There is always hope when there is love. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 728347, member: 19887"] I no longer let myself question what we did and will continue to do for our son. I don’t expect anyone to actually understand our situation or for me to truely understand another’s. We all have different situations and people are not all the same, even addicts are not all the same. I will never judge a parent who has had to distance themselves but I also don’t want my choices to be judged either, however I’d not let it affect me if someone did (or does). I feel at peace with how we have continued to support our son, even when it looked like he didn’t care or maybe others thought we shouldn’t. I appreciate your personal story tommorowtoday, we have chased our son around and picked up the pieces more than once the last four years. We have lectured and loved. Some days I didn’t think I could do it anymore. Then one day he decided he couldn’t do it anymore either. And he called me crying saying “I need detox”... it wasn’t a smooth road , and he slipped a few times and needed an intervention but he has slowly pulled himself out of the gutters. I am so glad we never gave up on him, even when he gave up on himself. I told him almost daily I loved him. He wasn’t always very lovable. I know my story is not the same as anyone else’s and that is why what we did worked for us but may not work for anyone else. I know until you have lived this horrible horrible life with loving an addict there is no way anyone can judge you. It’s not something anyone could imagine when their sweet hold is young and still so protected. The loss of being able to protect your child is traumatic . It is the scariest thing I have ever experienced. Son is doing great, he had his moments when I worry but he seems to be navigating his way. I am so very thankful to not be worrying about his life on a daily basis. He is home every night and goes to school every day. This is a miracle. I could not invision this a year ago. Please do not give up hope on your kids. There is always hope when there is love. Hugs and peace [/QUOTE]
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