I realize that I am new and not many people are connected with my story with my difficult child and my hubs. Basically the gist is: My husband while we were on deployment together started experience some crazy symptoms blood pressure was high and he was having bad headaches and was passing out he endured this for four months at the end of our deployment we returned in August with no relief from the symptoms but real life started to step in It took an additional fourish months to get docs to help and get an MRI, he was approaching time for him to move from our duty station in Tennessee to his new duty station in colorado and he was going to have to go alone for six months because I was finishing my enlistment. Anyway they so the MRI they see some major issue with his sinuses and immediately start trying to delay his orders so he can have further test and schedule surgery. The sinuses I am referring to are the ones in the forehead not so much the ones under the eyes. His pcs date is approaching they are telling us it will be delayed six days before he is supposed to leave he's told too bad can't delay your orders they will handle your issues in colorado. This was a big set back not only because of his unbearable pain and insane blood pressure but financially because we had not been saving for his move or the separate bills we would have with two house holds. He gets to colorado he goes to see doctors they take his blood pressure they don't put him on anything they do five different monitorings which last five days of checking his blood pressure they try him on several different beta blockers but they aren't perusing the sinus issue at all or treating the headaches. He develops an incredible drinking problem he is unmedicated in pain alone afraid he's going to die and still maintaining a crazy soldiers schedule. He goes and tries to get help starts seeing a t doctor and starts attending substance abuse classes. I became pregnant during one of his trips home so he knows I am coming he knows we are going to have a baby on top of my kids and he's trying to do right and get his issues resolved. His unit begins putting pressure on him to cancel his appointments says they are interfering with work. He does. I get here he has slowed the drinking down to a trickle but otherwise is still very sick. He is mostly normal from June till November but the drinking starts increasing but we aren't fighting and things are okay a week before I am due to have our son he leaves for a field exercise he comes home. He starts drinking, he's mean he stops helping with the house he stops talking to me for the most part I have The baby and things just continue to get worse. I am alone pretty much with three kids one of them a difficult child with a difficult child husband and no help. Anyway last month in January he has a mental break very dramatic and painful and I wasn't sure if I should stay or go. He gets admitted to the psychiatric hospital he's there for about two weeks. His unit keeps him in the barracks for an additional two weeks. They start letting him go to therapy and back to substance abuse classes they are going to medically retire him for the issues though so that is a new stress we don't know exactly when that will happen they have changed his medications three times in the last month. The last medication change resulted in over dose he can't drive off post. His memory has turned to **** or relationship has gone to koi the over dose had him in the hospital for a week. I had to call this agency in the army called the inspector general over and over again to get them to look at his MRI results and start dealing with his sinus issue again and his blood pressure..... Since then he's had a ct scan and they have set him up for his surgical consult his therapists he has 3 have finally jumped on the train and said they don't know what's going to happen unless he gets surgery that his blood pressure and the pain he's in are at the very least not helping his mental state. His surgical consult is in three days now. We are both concerned about what is going to happen, when surgery will be scheduled, if its cancer, if they will even biopsy the sinus they are removing like they should to check for cancer. Will life go back to normal? That's where I am right now and I am going to start the process of getting my difficult child child a diagnosis and the help she needs not this week but next week. Please send me good vibes, prayers positive energy this might be the most important month of my life up till this point.