Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by pasajes4, Dec 22, 2011.

  1. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    difficult child back in phospital. Would I be a grinch if I said I don't want him home for Christmas? He was doing really well until the "friend" from hell moved back into the neighborhood. The police had to do a emergency detention due erratic and dangerous behavior. If they send him home the way he is right now, I will not be able to see my grands or any of my family. Just a vent. Thanks for listening
  2. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Sounds perfectly reasonable to not want the Christmas from hell! If he is unwell, he needs to be there and you deserve a nice holiday. Not a grinch at all, sounds like you are healthy and normal.

    sorry all that happened though. Really sorry.
  3. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    (((Hugs)))) No you are not being a grinch. I completely understand.
  4. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Hugs. You are not a grinch, you are a burned out parent.
  5. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Absolutely! I'm sending peace and quiet for you, and a productive, restful hospital stay for your difficult child. Fingers crossed.
  6. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Christmas is just days away, I really hope that they don't push him out "because it's Christmas". Be firm and tell them that you don't feel he is stable and that it would be unsafe for him to come home before he is stable.

  7. Bunny

    Bunny Guest

    I don't think you're being a grinch. I think you're being realistic. If the hospital wants to send him hom because it's Christmas tell them that you don't think that's in anyone's best interest, especially your son's.

    I hope you get your Christmas wish!
  8. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    You are perfectly reasonable and rational to not want him home for xmas. Tell them that you are afraid that the stress of Christmas will push him to do something dangerous and you are afraid to have him home for the holiday. Christmas is an incredibly stressful time, and not always in a good way, and the suicide rate goes up substantially. I am NOT saying he is suicidal, but you can say that you are afraid of what he will do because there is no way for the holiday to meet expectations and he is already not in a good place.

    I hope you have a good xmas with-o difficult child conflama!