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Hurting other kids-- It Happened Again!
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 56080" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>I gotta tell ya. My Tink, who is 6, used to always get in trouble for hurting the neighborhood kids. And she lays it on thick: "I'm just bad. Nobody likes me. I'll NEVER have any friends." Well, I realized that my facial expressions were feeding into that. I was feeling bad for her and coddling her. When I changed my reaction, and made her take responsibility by first apologizing and then giving her an appropriate consequence, the hurting lessened. And when it happens now, she stops herself and apologizes right away instead of continuing to hurt the other child. Her consequences are less now. </p><p></p><p>In short, I realized that Tink knew what she was doing, and was playing the sympathy card with me. A little manipulation going on there on top of a little bullying. Once I made her responsible, both stopped (or at least lessened). Yeah, there is an impulse control problem, but now she has something to think about, and can stop herself before it gets out of hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 56080, member: 3647"] I gotta tell ya. My Tink, who is 6, used to always get in trouble for hurting the neighborhood kids. And she lays it on thick: "I'm just bad. Nobody likes me. I'll NEVER have any friends." Well, I realized that my facial expressions were feeding into that. I was feeling bad for her and coddling her. When I changed my reaction, and made her take responsibility by first apologizing and then giving her an appropriate consequence, the hurting lessened. And when it happens now, she stops herself and apologizes right away instead of continuing to hurt the other child. Her consequences are less now. In short, I realized that Tink knew what she was doing, and was playing the sympathy card with me. A little manipulation going on there on top of a little bullying. Once I made her responsible, both stopped (or at least lessened). Yeah, there is an impulse control problem, but now she has something to think about, and can stop herself before it gets out of hand. [/QUOTE]
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