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Hurting other kids-- It Happened Again!
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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 56105" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>I agree that this is a basket A issue. One thing that worked with our difficult child 1 was to encourage him to come to an adult the second they felt that someone was "wronging" him. Although to most kids, this seems like tattling, with our dude, it allowed him to:</p><p></p><p>a. take responsibility for any issues upsetting him</p><p>b. take a few seconds to process the problem</p><p>c. have assistance in rectifying the problem</p><p>d. allow us to explain that his perception of the "personal affront" may be skewed (they didn't do it to annoy you, it was an accident, that child is younger and doesn't understand what they did was wrong)</p><p>e. allow us to work through a way for him to work it out himself (what would be a good way to handle this?)</p><p></p><p>Make sure that you keep a careful, close eye on him, watch for times when he makes a good decision and make a HUGE fuss when he does the right thing. Positive reinforment is essential in building his self-esteem. You have to punish for Basket A's though or he'll never take responsibility for his impulses.</p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 56105, member: 3814"] I agree that this is a basket A issue. One thing that worked with our difficult child 1 was to encourage him to come to an adult the second they felt that someone was "wronging" him. Although to most kids, this seems like tattling, with our dude, it allowed him to: a. take responsibility for any issues upsetting him b. take a few seconds to process the problem c. have assistance in rectifying the problem d. allow us to explain that his perception of the "personal affront" may be skewed (they didn't do it to annoy you, it was an accident, that child is younger and doesn't understand what they did was wrong) e. allow us to work through a way for him to work it out himself (what would be a good way to handle this?) Make sure that you keep a careful, close eye on him, watch for times when he makes a good decision and make a HUGE fuss when he does the right thing. Positive reinforment is essential in building his self-esteem. You have to punish for Basket A's though or he'll never take responsibility for his impulses. Beth [/QUOTE]
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