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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 24621" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oh, I'm sure he has attachment issues. but some therapists, especially those who specialize in attachment disorder (we saw one) think all the trouble is due to attachment. There are so many co-morbids that mimic it that I'd start there first and see what's left after he's stable. Not all unattached kids act out like that. My child that we adopted at six never broke a rule. It was almost weird. He was the very, very good kid who never did anything wrong. But he never really attached to us, although he tried, I believe. Now he's thirty and still finding himself. I would guess that your son has many things going on so seeing somebody just for attachment, even before you see a psychiatrist (with that MD...lol) and a neuropsychologist who may be able to test and tell if the child has alcohol effects or autistic tendencies probably won't yeild the entire picture. It is very difficult when you adopt complicated kids, but I do think the best approach (again JMO) is to see somebody who has an open mind about what might be wrong and is not overly focused on one possibility. You can always find somebody for those problems after the child is more stablized. Any sort of therapy helps kids more after they are stable (adults too. I say this as one who has had extensive therapy). I believe your son probably has attachment issues, but I'd see what else is there first. They may not be as bad as it looks now. Other things could be making him act out more. My 13 year old was yanked from his birthmother at birth, then yanked from the foster parents who he knew as his parent at age two. He came to us. This child, for some reasons, never had attachment issues. He does have autism. Somebody could have read his poor eye contact as attachment disorder. It's really part of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Again, your child probably DOES have attachement issues, but I doubt if it's the whole picture. Our son, who was and still is, a sexual predator (he's in foster care now) was diagnosed with Severe Reactive Attachement Disorer once removed from our home. However, he also had symptoms of fetal alcohol effects which can make a child conscience-challenged. I think he had some sort of brain damage. His birthmother almost killed him--not on purpose, but because she fed him too much water and no formula. He was also exposed to drugs and alcohol. I would not be surprised to see his face on television one day, saying he killed somebody as he also killed two of our dogs (he said a bully neighbor did it, and we believed him--are we naive or what?) But he acted like our little angel. Anyways, enough. I'm glad you're going to get him an intensive evaluation from that MD Psychiatrist and I would also do a neuropsychologist report. Those two inputs will prove invaluable. Make sure you find somebody with a reputation for helping other people's kids. Ask for help in finding somebody. Save the therapists opinion (the ones with no medical training at all) for when you are referred to one by a Psychiatrist that has already got your kid's number and helped him. You're a good person. I hope it all works out and that you post again. Again, this is JMO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 24621, member: 1550"] Oh, I'm sure he has attachment issues. but some therapists, especially those who specialize in attachment disorder (we saw one) think all the trouble is due to attachment. There are so many co-morbids that mimic it that I'd start there first and see what's left after he's stable. Not all unattached kids act out like that. My child that we adopted at six never broke a rule. It was almost weird. He was the very, very good kid who never did anything wrong. But he never really attached to us, although he tried, I believe. Now he's thirty and still finding himself. I would guess that your son has many things going on so seeing somebody just for attachment, even before you see a psychiatrist (with that MD...lol) and a neuropsychologist who may be able to test and tell if the child has alcohol effects or autistic tendencies probably won't yeild the entire picture. It is very difficult when you adopt complicated kids, but I do think the best approach (again JMO) is to see somebody who has an open mind about what might be wrong and is not overly focused on one possibility. You can always find somebody for those problems after the child is more stablized. Any sort of therapy helps kids more after they are stable (adults too. I say this as one who has had extensive therapy). I believe your son probably has attachment issues, but I'd see what else is there first. They may not be as bad as it looks now. Other things could be making him act out more. My 13 year old was yanked from his birthmother at birth, then yanked from the foster parents who he knew as his parent at age two. He came to us. This child, for some reasons, never had attachment issues. He does have autism. Somebody could have read his poor eye contact as attachment disorder. It's really part of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Again, your child probably DOES have attachement issues, but I doubt if it's the whole picture. Our son, who was and still is, a sexual predator (he's in foster care now) was diagnosed with Severe Reactive Attachement Disorer once removed from our home. However, he also had symptoms of fetal alcohol effects which can make a child conscience-challenged. I think he had some sort of brain damage. His birthmother almost killed him--not on purpose, but because she fed him too much water and no formula. He was also exposed to drugs and alcohol. I would not be surprised to see his face on television one day, saying he killed somebody as he also killed two of our dogs (he said a bully neighbor did it, and we believed him--are we naive or what?) But he acted like our little angel. Anyways, enough. I'm glad you're going to get him an intensive evaluation from that MD Psychiatrist and I would also do a neuropsychologist report. Those two inputs will prove invaluable. Make sure you find somebody with a reputation for helping other people's kids. Ask for help in finding somebody. Save the therapists opinion (the ones with no medical training at all) for when you are referred to one by a Psychiatrist that has already got your kid's number and helped him. You're a good person. I hope it all works out and that you post again. Again, this is JMO. [/QUOTE]
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