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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 49585" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Witz, I hope something breaks the dam for H soon and he's able to open a little. I have been wishing something would happen to make my H realize he needs SOMETHING. </p><p></p><p>When we were first together we enjoyed bike riding and hiking. Often he'd come home from work and hop on his bike and do a 20 mile ride just to destress and unwind. Then his method of unwinding and chilling after work was more often made of up a shot and beer and maybe some wine with dinner. Ugh. He stopped drinking in December (still sober!) but he hasn't followed up with any type of support group, counseling, or anything. He has now become a workaholic. He's always been a workaholic mildly, but now he eats, sleeps and thinks about nothing but the current or next or past jobs he's done (he's a contractor/builder). Even on weekends, he works, if not at smaller jobs then at home; he would work round the clock if he could, I suspect. When I see that he's had enough and is just plain miserable to be around, I have to schedule some kind of getaway, even if it's just for a day. I literally have to force him into taking time off...he fights me on it. I'll take the overworker H to the alcoholic H any day of the week, but what I'd really like is to have my relaxed, bike riding H back. </p><p></p><p>Like TM, he doesn't say "I love you" all that often, but he definitely shows me in many other ways that he loves us and he's here for life. For now, that's my solace.</p><p></p><p>Again, I really hope things break for H so he can open up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 49585, member: 2211"] Witz, I hope something breaks the dam for H soon and he's able to open a little. I have been wishing something would happen to make my H realize he needs SOMETHING. When we were first together we enjoyed bike riding and hiking. Often he'd come home from work and hop on his bike and do a 20 mile ride just to destress and unwind. Then his method of unwinding and chilling after work was more often made of up a shot and beer and maybe some wine with dinner. Ugh. He stopped drinking in December (still sober!) but he hasn't followed up with any type of support group, counseling, or anything. He has now become a workaholic. He's always been a workaholic mildly, but now he eats, sleeps and thinks about nothing but the current or next or past jobs he's done (he's a contractor/builder). Even on weekends, he works, if not at smaller jobs then at home; he would work round the clock if he could, I suspect. When I see that he's had enough and is just plain miserable to be around, I have to schedule some kind of getaway, even if it's just for a day. I literally have to force him into taking time off...he fights me on it. I'll take the overworker H to the alcoholic H any day of the week, but what I'd really like is to have my relaxed, bike riding H back. Like TM, he doesn't say "I love you" all that often, but he definitely shows me in many other ways that he loves us and he's here for life. For now, that's my solace. Again, I really hope things break for H so he can open up. [/QUOTE]
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