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<blockquote data-quote="Mirabelle" data-source="post: 763683" data-attributes="member: 28712"><p>Thank you for your response KTMom. We have considered having someone manage his check in an official capacity, but we have had so much trouble with Social Services saying they will do things and then never doing them and telling us it is our fault / problem if something goes sideways. My stepson was deemed incompetent to manage his own money at the time he qualified for disability. My husband has considered giving him the whole check, but within 3-4 days he would be out of money and back on our doorstep demanding we do his bidding. </p><p></p><p>But I do appreciate the input. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> These are certainly options and possibilities we will continue revisiting as we try to find a way out of this mess. When my stepson was younger, his dad would tell him he would not argue with him, that they were not going to have this conversation etc., and then 10 minutes later they would still be at it. It would mostly end with some kind of concession on my husband's part. It is the same pattern now. I have tried to tactfully tell him that part of the reason his son continues to pester him relentlessly is that about 80% of the time, it ends in his son getting some or all of what he was asking for. No means maybe. I hope he can find the strength to be firmer and hold out for his own health and well being, and ultimately that of his son. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you too!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mirabelle, post: 763683, member: 28712"] Thank you for your response KTMom. We have considered having someone manage his check in an official capacity, but we have had so much trouble with Social Services saying they will do things and then never doing them and telling us it is our fault / problem if something goes sideways. My stepson was deemed incompetent to manage his own money at the time he qualified for disability. My husband has considered giving him the whole check, but within 3-4 days he would be out of money and back on our doorstep demanding we do his bidding. But I do appreciate the input. :) These are certainly options and possibilities we will continue revisiting as we try to find a way out of this mess. When my stepson was younger, his dad would tell him he would not argue with him, that they were not going to have this conversation etc., and then 10 minutes later they would still be at it. It would mostly end with some kind of concession on my husband's part. It is the same pattern now. I have tried to tactfully tell him that part of the reason his son continues to pester him relentlessly is that about 80% of the time, it ends in his son getting some or all of what he was asking for. No means maybe. I hope he can find the strength to be firmer and hold out for his own health and well being, and ultimately that of his son. Hugs to you too!! [/QUOTE]
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