I am a new comer to this site and am really at a loss for answers. My 9 year old son was diagnosed with ODD with early onset bipolar. He is on Guanfacine which has helped but we just upped his dose. My husband is my sons trigger. The two of them just can't get along and when they battle, it gets dangerous. This past weekend, my son threw an object hitting my husband on the head. My husband reacted by pinning my son down to tan his tail end. I physically pulled my husband off of my son to stop the battle. There have been therapists in the house that have tried to explain the condition to my husband and other people that work with kids like this but my husband won't accept what they are telling him. He just thinks that our son is a bad kid that needs to be beat. I have tried talking to him, modelling the parenting skills, encouraging him to read the information. This is all to no avail. My husband is a screamer and the house is in constant chaos when he is home. When a challenge arises he jumps to screaming and violence then leaves to go to his parents house while I deal with the aftermath. Can someone offer me some advice on what I should do next?