My husband is at his wits end. He stated today that he was prepared to live the rest of his life with no relationship with difficult child. He said I love her but I hate her. Today she was here with her friend (also pot smoker-they have been friends since 2nd. grade) and he grumbled around here making comments and throwing fireballs. He grubled at me-They are eating our food, why are they here? It went on and on. I get his frustration-but it is usually me here at night because he works dealing with her-so I am way over the constant negative grumbling because it hurts me more than her. Frankly, I like her here. At least I know she isn't smokin pot here. She still comes and goes-sometimes asking, sometimes just going. We do know who she is with now and she is coming home. Since she quit her job the pot smoking has escalated. She did not go to after care this week and the week before it was a bad storm. Very little work to get a job and no follow through on her scholarship paper work. She did finially do all her chores today-she usually picks and chooses. This friend of hers also quit his job around the same time she did. Found out she has an old cell phone that she can get to FB on when she gets wifi-(our home has it).How is it possible to work without an active account? I asked to see it and she refused, said it was hers and not my business. She has unfriended me months ago and set everything to private. I think she has an unidentifiable account as well. She use to do that years ago on myspace-use a name with numbers and symbols. The thing is we told her she couldn't use FB because she meets inappropriate people, and says innapropriate things (tells them she is 21 etc.). We are sure that she ran off to some places with people she met on FB. I stopped buying any food she asks for or things she likes way back in Sep. She has gotten no money from us, no new clothes except a few at Christmas. This is a roof over her head and a meal. We have gone on a few day trips as a family and out to eat for birthdays. We have done everything we know to do. If we retrict her, she makes sure she ignores it. If we give her extra house work as a consequence, she makes sure she doesn't do it. If we negotiate and come up with a plan-she breaks her end of the deal as soon as possible. Now my husband is mad-it has taken away any joy at home. I know he has to go through it-he's always a few month behind me in where he is dealing with difficult child. I wish he could come to FA meetings with me. I don't know what to do next. Just tired and hopeless today!