Our TSP meeting is Friday... I posted here earlier for some advice on how to prepare. I told husband that I was going to bring all the paperwork that I already have (it's a huge file) plus I am going to add all the things we did to try and solve difficult child's issues in the past. I am also going to type up a bulleted summary of the current problems. I told him exactly what i was going to write. husband was fine with it. I told him that I was going to push for placement for difficult child. I asked him how he felt about that. husband agreed it would be in difficult child's best interest. He wanted placement, too. I said "OK - so we're on the same page then?" husband said "Yes" So today - I had a meeting with the therapist. We discussed the upcoming TSP meeting. therapist said she is going to recommend placement - se doesn't feel there is anything more that can be done on an outpatient basis and difficult child really needs more supervision than we can provide at home. OK - fine. Good. Everyone agrees. I call husband to tell him about the meeting with therapist and her recommendation. Well, now husband doesn't seem so sure... Aaaarrrggghhh!!! You know - he always manages to talk real tough when he is angry with difficult child....but then when we get in front of somebody who can help...he goes into this "Gotta protect Daddy's little girl" mode. During one of difficult child's hospitalizations - husband and I wanted to talk to them about placement....but then when it came right down to it - husband said flat out that he was only OK with placement if it was very short-term....say two weeks. (Huh???) The woman told him that any placement would be at minimum a year - so husband said No way! The when we spoke to a psychiatrist over the summer about how to arrange placement - husband left the room...didn't even want to be part of the discussion. Now here we are - two days ago he says we're on the same page... and now that everyone seems to be pushing for placement it's "What? There's nothing else we can do for difficult child? But I don't want to send her away..." If he gets into that meeting and pulls that "O nothing long term..." garbage I'm just gonna be ready to strangle him!