Well we had a good visit. I kinda chewed on him a bit about telling the psychiatrist today (not his normal one) what he wanted to hear. He was making up stories about what happened on Wednesday night, and what he made up was worse than what happened. That is just not helpful.
We wrote some questions in his notebook for his psychiatrist, he will see his normal psychiatrist tommorrow. I am truly impressed with his psychiatrist and how empathetic he is. He is never condescending to husband or myself. He has always thanked me for my input and never made me feel unwelcome or unneeded or in the way. husband trusts him as I have seen him trust no one.
I have had interactions with some of the other psychiatrists in that group at work, and one is an arrogant jerk, the other is burned out, and there may be afew others that seem ok, but I have not had enough to do with them to know.
I told husband I wanted him home more than anything, but that the kids and my safety are first and that when he is himself he would never harm us, but he was not himself the other night. He was scared I was going to dump him there and get rid of him. I told him that if I wanted to get rid of him there are much cheaper ways to go about it and then I would not visit or take the kids to see him. I told him that while it hoovers to be there, he needs to be there and they can do more with his medications there than I can do at home.
I feel so much better after our visit tonight. I can see the real him peeking through, and it gives me hope.
I really cannot say in any way how much I appreciate the support of all you on this board. No one, or very few, that I know in the real world have any idea of how mental illness can rip people apart. How it can completely change the people we love and how hard it is to help them find themselves again without enabling and losing ourselves. I think what I find so difficult is that if husband had cancer, or some type of physical ailment others would be more understanding. While right now he is by no means stable nor himself, he still deserves compassion, empathy and understanding. Not many really know what is going on, I have been telling them that he is on a lot of medications and really out of it. Our society is so cruel to people with mental illness, and in that cruel to the families.