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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 57622" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p><em>Until he takes on the accountability for what is bothering him and you let go of it, you are both going to be miserable. For you, disengaging is much easier said than done, but is much healthier in the long run. </em></p><p></p><p>I agree.</p><p></p><p>And that's where counseling helps if you go alone (because you know he won't go...). The counselor will help you learn to create boundaries and not be a doormat. It does not mean you explode or provoke husband (heaven knows, he can provoke himself!). It means you stand your ground... or in this case, leave.</p><p>It's scary. But so is living with-a guy like that!</p><p></p><p>by the way, most of your original note was spent defending yourself. Clearly, he has put you on the defensive. There is no need for that. That's the first thing the counselor will tell you. </p><p></p><p>Many hugs.</p><p> :flower:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 57622, member: 3419"] [i]Until he takes on the accountability for what is bothering him and you let go of it, you are both going to be miserable. For you, disengaging is much easier said than done, but is much healthier in the long run. [/i] I agree. And that's where counseling helps if you go alone (because you know he won't go...). The counselor will help you learn to create boundaries and not be a doormat. It does not mean you explode or provoke husband (heaven knows, he can provoke himself!). It means you stand your ground... or in this case, leave. It's scary. But so is living with-a guy like that! by the way, most of your original note was spent defending yourself. Clearly, he has put you on the defensive. There is no need for that. That's the first thing the counselor will tell you. Many hugs. [img]:flower:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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