We've been seeing her to help with parenting manster. I'm the one that usually goes. Well I get the feeling that their session was a "bash ML and her parenting" hour. He came home and told me all the things we're (I'm) doing wrong and that therapist thinks we should change. We are trying to get on the same page here. I've finally come to trust husband enough to give him equal parenting input after a year of sobriety and working his program. I appreciate his willingness to take on raising manster, I really do. But he thinks it's all behavioral and won't even concede that some of this stuff is biological in nature, except for the ADHD and ODD part. He's even got the therapist now questionning the AS diagnosis because for example he reads facial cues just fine. I guess it's just easier for him to blame bad parenting period. I wish it were that simple. There are just no easier answers. I believe in picking battles and I feel like husband wants to make everything a power struggle and that just escalates things. I do ackowledge that I have some things to change with our dynamics and I'm working on them. We enrolled manster in a westernaires program to teach him to ride and take care of horses. husband wants this to be something that is their thing and I can come if I want to. I probably won't for a while because manster will look to me to rescue him if it gets too uncomfortale in some way and I need to get out of the rescuing business if he's ever going to have a chance. ODAAT, right?