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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 749942" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Welcome, I'm sorry for what you're going through. Sometimes we get tunnel vision because of the emotional strings attached to loving our children and our convoluted thought process that we are supposed to put up with anything they do to us or say to us. Trust me, I'm right there with you.</p><p></p><p>Prior to my divorce we actually had a restraining order on our youngest son and due to my husband's drinking (ex-now) he allowed my son back into our home behind my back. I was petrified of my younger son at the time because he suffered from PTSD and ADHD and at the time smoked pot morning, noon and night and his behavior was unpredictable. I was so angry with my husband for letting him back in the house but due to his chronic alcoholism his clarity and decision making was skewed.</p><p></p><p>Even though there has been "some" reconciliation over the last few years, I have set boundaries and will not allow my son into my home (or my 30 yrs. old for other reasons). There are moments when I feel sad about this (remembering who he used to be as a little boy) but I have to protect myself from his "instability" caused by possible drugs and or mental illness and anxiety.</p><p></p><p>You should definitely protect yourself because it sounds like you have to expect the unexpected. Our homes are where we are supposed to feel safe and protected. I am blessed that I have that now because I have un-popularly set those boundaries for myself along with a good alarm system.</p><p></p><p>Please don't take this lightly because the repercussions could be more than you ever expected.</p><p></p><p>Be safe!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 749942, member: 23405"] Welcome, I'm sorry for what you're going through. Sometimes we get tunnel vision because of the emotional strings attached to loving our children and our convoluted thought process that we are supposed to put up with anything they do to us or say to us. Trust me, I'm right there with you. Prior to my divorce we actually had a restraining order on our youngest son and due to my husband's drinking (ex-now) he allowed my son back into our home behind my back. I was petrified of my younger son at the time because he suffered from PTSD and ADHD and at the time smoked pot morning, noon and night and his behavior was unpredictable. I was so angry with my husband for letting him back in the house but due to his chronic alcoholism his clarity and decision making was skewed. Even though there has been "some" reconciliation over the last few years, I have set boundaries and will not allow my son into my home (or my 30 yrs. old for other reasons). There are moments when I feel sad about this (remembering who he used to be as a little boy) but I have to protect myself from his "instability" caused by possible drugs and or mental illness and anxiety. You should definitely protect yourself because it sounds like you have to expect the unexpected. Our homes are where we are supposed to feel safe and protected. I am blessed that I have that now because I have un-popularly set those boundaries for myself along with a good alarm system. Please don't take this lightly because the repercussions could be more than you ever expected. Be safe! [/QUOTE]
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