hi! this is a me thing, not a difficult child thing. husband's family is difficult as is his ex who continues to mess with-us. i'm just getting soo tired of it, it's an addtl. stress ontop of too many other's stressors on me and us. his dad doesn't like me, i knew it from the start. actually he took to me well years ago when i was working, yet as soon as i got laid off last august the cr*p hit the fan shall we say. he makes inappropriate comments to me at family gatherings about not working, he talks down to me, etc. husband has spoken to him twice already about it. one time was in a bar, he began with me and quite loudly and i went back at him instead of playing the be the bigger person game i've played for a while. i think their all nuts personally. all his ppl seem to be absolutely off their rocker. last incident was a few days ago. his ex wanted to drop kids to me at a certain time i expressed thru husband that was not good for me and gave a time that would work. ( we were taking kids camping for 3 days because she wanted to go away with-her partner). long story short husband was at work, i was home running to stores, loading truck, etc. laundry. getting ready to leave at 7 a.m. next day with-5 kids. his ex (yup she's still a pain in my rear called his father and trashed me basically stating how i do not help with-kids etc. (couldn't be farther from truth i'm soo hands on with them since day one). well his dad than called me, his sister text me, etc. his dad left a nasty message on my cell. i refuse to pick it up and become part of their insanity at that point. giving me tips on how to be a parent, why dont' i pitch in, etc. why am i avoiding him, do i have to call his son, my husband to get permission to call him back lol. real nasty stuff. his sister text asking where are you why aren't you answering your phone. than his dad's girlfriend text me cursing when dad calls you, your respond YOU need to remember who is in charge of this family. LOL all i can say is she has seen way way too many godfather episodes. never liiked her she's just really a bad person. so, needless to say his ex wanted to create turmoil and did it yet again. husband yet again spoke to his family telling them how they have to respect me etc. i wasnt' there for the call. Yet this is like the 3rd or 4th time he's done it. i told him listen i can't have this drama in my life. i have enough on my plate. if you feel the need to spend holidays, etc. with them than by all means go, yet i do not think i'll be subjecting myself to that anymore. it's 3 years of horrible uneasy holidays for me and mine basically with-his family. we dont' like them at all. and his ex well let's see she text him on our wedding night, while we were on our honeymoon, as soon as he landed saying oh are you back safe now with a smiley face. he answered none of the texts. yet it doesn't stop her she just keeps on coming. it's kinda depressing to be honest to know that now i have signed up for a lifetime of this stuff with all of them. the ex will never go away, nor his family. we were hoping once married she'd back off yet it made her come harder. any thoughts or advice or a plan on how to secretly remove all of them from my world and maybe place them on their own island???