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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 651532" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If he has had money lately and you haven't given it to him and he has no job, likely he's been stealing for a long time. in my opinion the best way to stop him from REALLY getting into trouble, like, robbing a store is to hold him accountable for stealing from you. It's easier and much less serious and you can back off pressing charges after he confesses, but I'd let the police get the confession out of him. They will push him for "the friend's" name. If he can't or wont give up the friend (and I don't believe it is a friend), I'd do the same consequences as if he had done it because he allowed it and didn't tell you. This is one thing I believe with all my heart that we did right that kept my daughter from continuing her self-destruction. We let her face the police, even as a minor, and never bailed her out of trouble and didn't worry about the record when she straightened out...that, we figured, would all work out. We wanted to keep her alive. That was our primary goal. If he keeps stealing and steals from a stranger, he will have a record anyway.</p><p></p><p>I would have pinned him to the wall when he said, "I can handle it. I get money." I was very naive about drug use, but I have a really hard time dodging reality. </p><p></p><p>To me, his drug use and new behaviors are more critical right now than the high school diploma. He can always get a GED if he straightens out. But he won't get anywhere if he keeps spiraling the way he is. I feel so badly for you because I always cheered for your son and so badly wanted him to make it and thought he would. But this CAN be possibly just a glitch in his journey. I think it's best to admit it and nip it in the bud and pray a lot.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 651532, member: 1550"] If he has had money lately and you haven't given it to him and he has no job, likely he's been stealing for a long time. in my opinion the best way to stop him from REALLY getting into trouble, like, robbing a store is to hold him accountable for stealing from you. It's easier and much less serious and you can back off pressing charges after he confesses, but I'd let the police get the confession out of him. They will push him for "the friend's" name. If he can't or wont give up the friend (and I don't believe it is a friend), I'd do the same consequences as if he had done it because he allowed it and didn't tell you. This is one thing I believe with all my heart that we did right that kept my daughter from continuing her self-destruction. We let her face the police, even as a minor, and never bailed her out of trouble and didn't worry about the record when she straightened out...that, we figured, would all work out. We wanted to keep her alive. That was our primary goal. If he keeps stealing and steals from a stranger, he will have a record anyway. I would have pinned him to the wall when he said, "I can handle it. I get money." I was very naive about drug use, but I have a really hard time dodging reality. To me, his drug use and new behaviors are more critical right now than the high school diploma. He can always get a GED if he straightens out. But he won't get anywhere if he keeps spiraling the way he is. I feel so badly for you because I always cheered for your son and so badly wanted him to make it and thought he would. But this CAN be possibly just a glitch in his journey. I think it's best to admit it and nip it in the bud and pray a lot. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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