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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 9367" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Sue,in my humble opinion,none of us have any real answers of how to fix our kids. We all just want them to be productive,responsible adults with character. Some things we can't do. We can't force them to manage anger or can't show them how their self destructive behavior is at the root of their trouble. Somewhere in there,though, I have to believe we shouldn't feed the delusion that it is all someone else's fault. </p><p></p><p>If you want to pay the fines then do it but don't pretend it's all rationalized by the fact she was injured in the batte or the computer locked up. She isn't behaving in a way that shows responsibility or character. You don't want to feed it but if you want to help her over the obstacle(fines) then do it but understand it's not because she is an innocent victim. </p><p></p><p>The whole idea of her not getting a job because of her record isn't a bad idea. She shouldn't be allowed adult responsibility if she acts like a petulant 2 yr old. Her frustration level is so low that she would just throw a phone at a client who doesn't listen to her. I don't think she shouldn't be able to get a job but the point I'm making if she acts like a two year old she shouldn't expect the respect or paycheck of an adult. </p><p></p><p>As far as not posting because someone disagreed with you is your choice. The point of putting your child's behavior out on the forums is to get some other viewpoints. I don't believe Suz or Abbey were mean or unsupportive. Just frustrated that you see the same behavior and you rationalize it all as some external force causing the problem. (such as being the baby of the family) We all love you and have been there through all Angela's and Melissa's escapades.All your medical scares. Especially Suz and Abbey. They have tried hard to give back to the members and that includes you and me. If a different opinion is offensive you may want to ask yourself why. If it is that they are wrong,destructive or meanhearted then you probably shouldn't keep posting. </p><p>If it is because they see what's happening because they walked in your shoes and are trying to jump up and down (through words) to get your attention then maybe you should re read them and contemplate that maybe there is something that may be of value in their statements.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 9367, member: 3"] Sue,in my humble opinion,none of us have any real answers of how to fix our kids. We all just want them to be productive,responsible adults with character. Some things we can't do. We can't force them to manage anger or can't show them how their self destructive behavior is at the root of their trouble. Somewhere in there,though, I have to believe we shouldn't feed the delusion that it is all someone else's fault. If you want to pay the fines then do it but don't pretend it's all rationalized by the fact she was injured in the batte or the computer locked up. She isn't behaving in a way that shows responsibility or character. You don't want to feed it but if you want to help her over the obstacle(fines) then do it but understand it's not because she is an innocent victim. The whole idea of her not getting a job because of her record isn't a bad idea. She shouldn't be allowed adult responsibility if she acts like a petulant 2 yr old. Her frustration level is so low that she would just throw a phone at a client who doesn't listen to her. I don't think she shouldn't be able to get a job but the point I'm making if she acts like a two year old she shouldn't expect the respect or paycheck of an adult. As far as not posting because someone disagreed with you is your choice. The point of putting your child's behavior out on the forums is to get some other viewpoints. I don't believe Suz or Abbey were mean or unsupportive. Just frustrated that you see the same behavior and you rationalize it all as some external force causing the problem. (such as being the baby of the family) We all love you and have been there through all Angela's and Melissa's escapades.All your medical scares. Especially Suz and Abbey. They have tried hard to give back to the members and that includes you and me. If a different opinion is offensive you may want to ask yourself why. If it is that they are wrong,destructive or meanhearted then you probably shouldn't keep posting. If it is because they see what's happening because they walked in your shoes and are trying to jump up and down (through words) to get your attention then maybe you should re read them and contemplate that maybe there is something that may be of value in their statements. [/QUOTE]
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