has a way of opening and spewing forth his opinions a little on the loud side when his sense of fairness has been insulted. I'm sure some of you have family members like this and can relate. At easy child's soccer game this morning, we saw that the parent of a player on the opposing team had shown up to referee our game. Unless you have permission from the league AND notify and get the o.k. from BOTH coaches, you cannot do this. You're not even supposed to referee for teams in the same age bracket if you have a kid playing, let alone referee for his or her team! Not only did this guy NOT tell our coach (I had to do that), he didn't even discuss it with him before the game to give him an opportunity to agree or disagree with the arrangement. AND we learned that his son was the second ref that was supposed to be there helping but didn't show, so that's TWO conflicting issues. Also, during the game, he kept his belongings on the other team's side where his wife was sitting, and during breaks he socialized with the spectators from the other team, instead of remaining away and apart from both teams like he's supposed to. When the game was finished, husband let the referee know he'd be reporting it to the league, to which the ref retorted that the league approved it, and then within earshot, called husband a "loudmouth" to the parents on the other side. That was enough to get husband's volume cranked up and he walked to the half-way part of the field and demanded that the other coach tell the referee/parent to not call him names. By this time, our coach was running after him to bring him back to our side and diffuse the situation. Needless to say, it was an awkward moment for me. husband remained agitated for a few hours. Accused me of not backing him since I pointed out that he was supposed to stay calm and not get so loud and belligerent. He finally settled down after he got his letter to the league written and I helped proofread it. To make things even more interesting, the referee in question is the assistant coach of the boys' team difficult child 1 is playing this afternoon! I don't know if there will be any repercussions to this. It's really too bad husband lets his emotions rule his thinking -- it's one thing to stand up for something that's wrong and find a diplomatic solution, but in my opinion it's just not right to shout at people from across a field when you're not happy with something they've done. It really was our coach's call, after I told him about the conflict of interest, to say something and put a stop to the game proceeding under this referee in the first place. But husband gets on his high horse and feels like he's got to be everyone's champion with a bull horn!