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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 757724" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Mitch, I'm glad he's found a place to stay for now but I can't emphasize enough how important it is to find tools that will help you gain a backbone and not a wishbone. It's so important for us to have firmness, confidence and peacefulness in where we stand because even though our adult children may "temporarily get a place to stay" it's usually just that and the story repeats itself. They are no sooner back at our front door begging for another chance. I'm not trying to make you worry in advance but rather to continue to get stronger about this issue and be prepared with a Plan B, C D or E. </p><p></p><p>What I've experienced is that if one of my adult homeless sons finds a place to stay,(I have two) it seems to only be temporary and the reason being in their cases is that they continue to do the same ol' same ol'. If you don't work and help pay the rent and expenses those in the apt. or home getting up every day to go to work, start to resent this behavior (just as we do). And so the circle begins again and they are back on the streets again. No matter what we tell them they just can't seem to change their behaviors and look at this as a gift and a stepping stone to a better way.</p><p></p><p>I sincerely hope and pray that your son gets busy getting a job and working towards a happier future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 757724, member: 23405"] Mitch, I'm glad he's found a place to stay for now but I can't emphasize enough how important it is to find tools that will help you gain a backbone and not a wishbone. It's so important for us to have firmness, confidence and peacefulness in where we stand because even though our adult children may "temporarily get a place to stay" it's usually just that and the story repeats itself. They are no sooner back at our front door begging for another chance. I'm not trying to make you worry in advance but rather to continue to get stronger about this issue and be prepared with a Plan B, C D or E. What I've experienced is that if one of my adult homeless sons finds a place to stay,(I have two) it seems to only be temporary and the reason being in their cases is that they continue to do the same ol' same ol'. If you don't work and help pay the rent and expenses those in the apt. or home getting up every day to go to work, start to resent this behavior (just as we do). And so the circle begins again and they are back on the streets again. No matter what we tell them they just can't seem to change their behaviors and look at this as a gift and a stepping stone to a better way. I sincerely hope and pray that your son gets busy getting a job and working towards a happier future. [/QUOTE]
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