I just wanted to say thank you. You all were right. I called the caseworker yesterday and asked him what he thought. He too thought I should be there and would have valuable info. I don't think I need to go as "indepth" as I did with my difficult child alone, but I do have some suggestions. I am already getting prepared for the fallout, because I can feel it in my bones it's going to happen. It has happened before. I can just see and hear my difficult child screaming......... get her out of here! She's not a part of this! He's MY son! Lord help me. And thanks for the tip to write my suggestions down. I usually try to do that, so that I am not distracted by what's going on around me and so that I don't forget anything. Oh by the way, it's not on Monday, it's on Tuesday. I promise not to reduce myself to her level. I will not scream! Thanks again.