School starts here on Monday. I am excited for my easy child's to go back. I am also excited to have a break from difficult child--but I fear it wont really be a break at all. I have really been dreading her returning to this school. I tried to move her to another school in the district but they are over full in their 5th grade classes already (70+ kids enrolled with 2 classrooms). The school I wanted her to go to is the best school in our district for difficult children--her psychiatrist wants me to continue to try to get her in there. The school who's area we live in is horrible. This is the same school she has been in since Kindergarten, except for 1/2 of her 3rd grade year when we lived with my sister in law in another town. Kindergarten was ok--or at least thats what they told me. At the end of 1st grade the teacher called and told me they had had alot of problems with her that year. 2nd grade they told me she had no problems. 3rd grade at the other school there were issues brought to my attention and I had a couple meetings with the teacher but when we moved back to this school, I was told there were no problems. Then last year--4th grade--was bad. I got calls from the teacher all the time (several per week), notes home, difficult child never brought homework home--always told me they didnt do homework in 4th grade, alot of problems with other kids (fighting, name calling, bullying). When I went in to meet with the principal a couple months into the school year, he tells me that they have had problems with difficult child's behavior all along. When I asked why I was never informed of all this---why was I told all along that things were fine---even when @ parent teacher conferences, I would lay out specifically what problems we had at home and the teachers would tell me they didnt see any of that. So the teachers lied to me all along. UGH!! So now she will be starting 5th grade next week. We went to look at the classroom assignments that were printed and posted on the windows---and she got a good teacher. But....the main little girl that we had all the problems with last year is in the class too. Not a good combo. So I ask if they can change one of the girls, and the principal says No!!! Apparently because they posted it on the window it is written in stone. He told me that had I requested they not be together in the spring, that he could have done that---but in the spring I was planning on having her either in another school or homeschooling her (which psychiatrist advised against because of her ODD and my frustration level when it comes to that.) I just want her to have a successful school year. We are currently working with psychiatrist on a medication that will work. She is on Abilify but I dont feel that its working so well. She is still very up and down and irritable. Although the rages have decreased, she is now crying whenever something doesnt go her way. I am waiting for a call from the school psychologist to see if we can get together and get something going, and perhaps see if he can help get a class change for one of the girls. I just feel so lost right now. I dont know what the next step is to take for her. My anxiety over this is through the roof and I just want to sit and cry!! So I guess I just needed to vent, and would love any advice all you warrior moms have to offer.