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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 700378" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>CB. It is the job that is worthless. You are a fine woman.</p><p></p><p>This supervisor is revealing her true colors. She is a weak and despicable person. You cannot expect more from her than the behavior she is displaying. This is who she is.</p><p></p><p>The feelings you are having is a form of scapegoating of yourself for maltreatment of you by others. An abusive authority figure treating you badly--and you are blaming yourself as having deserved it. This is what children do who are abused. They tell themselves, <em>I am being treated this way because I am a bad, bad child. </em></p><p></p><p>You know you are covering for this horrible supervisor because you know that what ever small error you made, is only because you are human. Nobody does a job perfectly. You know that because you wrote it in your post.</p><p></p><p>You are taking the hits for her. That seems to be in your psychological makeup (mine too, that is why I recognize it.) But by reminding yourself you are doing this (covering for her by blaming and degrading yourself) you can stop it.</p><p></p><p><strong><em><u>Right now</u></em></strong> stop attacking yourself. When you feel better you can begin to do what you need to do in order to find another job. It is a process. We are all here for you. Please be kind to yourself. Now is when you need kindness, not self-attack.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 700378, member: 18958"] CB. It is the job that is worthless. You are a fine woman. This supervisor is revealing her true colors. She is a weak and despicable person. You cannot expect more from her than the behavior she is displaying. This is who she is. The feelings you are having is a form of scapegoating of yourself for maltreatment of you by others. An abusive authority figure treating you badly--and you are blaming yourself as having deserved it. This is what children do who are abused. They tell themselves, [I]I am being treated this way because I am a bad, bad child. [/I] You know you are covering for this horrible supervisor because you know that what ever small error you made, is only because you are human. Nobody does a job perfectly. You know that because you wrote it in your post. You are taking the hits for her. That seems to be in your psychological makeup (mine too, that is why I recognize it.) But by reminding yourself you are doing this (covering for her by blaming and degrading yourself) you can stop it. [B][I][U]Right now[/U][/I][/B] stop attacking yourself. When you feel better you can begin to do what you need to do in order to find another job. It is a process. We are all here for you. Please be kind to yourself. Now is when you need kindness, not self-attack. [/QUOTE]
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